Signs your crush is also interested in you

Dear Coleen

I’m hoping you’ll be able to help me with the recurring problem in my life – men. I don’t know how to read them at all and never know whether someone fancies me or not.

Apart from asking them outright, which would never work as I’m shy, I don’t know how I’ll get an answer to my latest dilemma.

I have a huge crush on a customer who regularly comes into the place where I work.

I’ve caught him looking at me before and when I serve him we chat a little bit, even though I do sometimes get a bit flustered and nervous around him.

He never engages in the same banter with any of my colleagues. B

But, on the other hand, when they serve him he doesn’t always acknowledge me (even though he can probably feel my eyes boring into him as I stare at him like some love-struck teen).

I have a feeling he’s single, but how can I find this out during the precious few moments we have?

And how do I figure out if he’s interested, or if he is single? He could just be a nice guy, but I know virtually nothing about him.

And, of course, he may not realise that I’m attracted to him and might just think I’m a nice friendly woman, which I am.

I’d be grateful for any advice, especially if it results in me finally changing my relationship status on Facebook.

Coleen says

There aren’t many people who would come right out and say, “do you fancy me?” in that situation. And, if they did, I’m pretty sure the other person would run a mile.

It’s a good start if he’s really friendly and always chats to you – maybe he is flirting a bit, too.

The next time you serve him and get chatting, drop in little questions to get him to reveal more about himself, like: “You come in here a lot – do you work or live nearby?”

That might lead on to who he lives with and where he likes to go out for a drink locally.

Gradually, you’ll find out more – and if he starts asking you the same kind of questions then I’d say he’s probably interested.

If he’s not interested, or has a wife or girlfriend, then I think he’ll be polite and friendly, but won’t engage further in conversation.

But for goodness sake, don’t make it about changing your status on Facebook. That’s certain to repel any potential boyfriends.