Annoying habits of newlywed wives that bore their husbands to death

Most newly married men will resoundingly admit that their lives were less-dramatic when they were single. To some, it's quite unfortunate you cannot change things after the revered words: "and now by the authority given to me, I declare you husband and wife!"

Newly married men have to put up with annoying behaviors but for fear of blowing up the marriage they remain silent.

Take the example of George; his wife introduces him to anybody who cares to listen. "This is my hubby!" she can excitedly say at the slightest opportunity. George says that he finds this exceedingly annoying and loathes a time his wife has to accompany him anywhere.

There are hundreds of habits that newly married wives upset their husbands with but below is a list of the most common 10.

• Getting overly excited about the marriage

Hurrah! You're now married! While being happy and excited is accepted, like George, men don't like a woman who exaggerates it. This show-off can embarrass your husband especially if he's the "private-life" type. Opundo agrees with George saying that from the blues and in the middle of a crowd, his wife can pull him closer and whisper something rather insignificant to his ears. "There are times she makes me feel like I did her a favor by marrying her," he says.

• Dependent in simple decision-making

Involving him in petty details isn't submissiveness! A man respects a woman who can make independent decisions. Gitonga laments: "My wife cannot buy even a kitchen towel without consulting me!" It's tiring and maddening! Opundo echoes Gitonga's sentiments saying his wife can interrupt a meeting with calls and texts just to ask him what he would like for dinner. The two men have another common problem: their wives can't make decisions about over-staying relatives even if they're from the wife's side.

• Crying wolf to attract attention

Crying wolf will distance him from you. He will ignore all your calls if all you do is sound an alarm. Nicasius says that for his wife to stop crying wolf, he had to ignore her when she was genuinely in trouble. "She had seriously been bitten by a dog but though the doctor himself called me, I refused to go," he said. Today, Nicasius says, she knows too well when to sound an alarm.

• Attempting to change them

"For Pete's sake you found me smoking, so let me be!" observes Kevin Wawire. He says his wife thought she was earning credit by trying to change his smoking habit. Trying to change a man irritates him because you end up being nagging. There are some habits only he can change at his own time. If he knows he's coming home and cannot do his thing in peace, he will do it where no one questions.

• Negative energy

Showing him why and how his plans won't work is likely to make him keep his issues from her. Men want positive support and not examples of who tried it and it never worked. If you can't be positive then shut up! Dealing with negative energy is another of George's big issues. "She can never accept anything with the first suggestion!" he says.

• Threatening to leave

A man hates a woman who keeps threatening that she can quit the marriage after every small disagreement. The truth is that he may one day ask you to make good that threat and how shameful because you can't!

• Being treated like kids

"I don't like repeating myself, if I say I don't want to eat now, that's it!" says Opundo. It annoys him when his wife nags him with "please finish your food; take another glass of juice, a fruit is good for you......." This makes a man feel like his authority as a man is being demeaned. When he wants food, he can ask for it!

• Jealous and suspicious

A man needs some breathing space. Making numerous calls and texts because he isn't home and it's already 8.30 PM will make him switch off his phone and perhaps stay longer. "We are now married, it's now time for me to start making money," Gitonga summarily says.

• Brooding and sulking

If ever you want to communicate anything to your husband, speak it out! Men take time to understand the long face and often ignore it. Julius Kubo says that three years in marriage and he has never known when his wife is just silent or when she's brooding. "I ignore it and don't even attempt to start a conversation," he says and jests that she comes around sooner when he does that.

• Being overly submissive

Men want a woman who can challenge them intelligently; a woman who approves anything her husband says exhibits timidity, ignorance or lack of seriousness. If a man feels like he's making decisions alone he may either take advantage of that and starts issuing commands or he can withdraw and start doing his own research on internet