If your looking for a serious 'Mr Right', try multiple dating

I am totally against the idea of marrying young.

As a woman, marriage should not even remotely cross your mind until you are at least 25.

The reason is simple, you haven’t been around the block long enough to really know what you want. Marriage is a big deal. I like the idea of ‘till death do us part.’ Therefore, that decision should not be taken lightly. Marrying young is a recipe for divorce.

I know it sounds romantic and totally cute to marry your high school sweetheart. He was your first kiss. He was the one who broke your virginity. What could possibly go wrong? Everything! Women who marry their first love tend to get bored somewhere along the marriage and begin to wonder just what else the world has to offer.

At this point, stepping out to explore the horizons beyond the matrimonial bed isn’t farfetched. Imagine investing 25 years of your life in a marriage only to discover you are not compatible with your spouse?

It is refreshing to see that women have borrowed a leaf from their male counterparts and are learning to play the field a bit before settling down. Playing the field is not just a couple of relationships before tying the knot.

It’s multiple dating. Just because James has asked you out doesn’t mean you can’t accept Tom’s date as well. After all, you are not in an exclusive relationship with either of them. Be adventurous. Test the waters. There is an endless pool of possibilities out there.

Women in their early 20s should particularly consider multiple dating. This is when you are in your prime, or as my friend likes to say, you are at the height of your fabulousity. You have little responsibility and still discovering yourself.

If you have multiple guys asking you out at the same time, all you need to do is organise your schedule a little. If you play your cards right, you will have your hands full. Multiple dating requires an open mind and a carefree attitude.

Sit back and relax as you are in for a time of your life. The aim here is to go on as many first dates as possible. I don’t mean that you bed every single one of these men. Exercise caution and act responsibly.

Multiple dating definitely has its perks. For starters, the experience will prove extremely useful when it comes to zeroing in on a potential husband. You will be in a better position to make an informed decision.

You are bound to make a couple of mistakes along the way. But that is the beauty of it. Those mistakes will serve as lessons, not to mention a good way to while away boring afternoons with your girlfriends as you heal and get over a bad relationship.

Ultimately, you will become a better version of yourself and when you finally decide to plunge back into the dating scene in search of a husband, you will know exactly what you are looking for.

I am sure there are a few success stories of childhood sweethearts who married and are living happily ever after. I would like to hear them.

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