Is Mr Right taking his sweet time? Here's a plot

There is a group of single women so desperate to get married; they are willing to use all means, however cheap to get a man. They are willing to compromise on their principles and values, and lower their standards. But there is no need to stoop this low.

My friend Makena’s story is best example of how to be single as you wait for a husband. The highly successful HR practitioner was still single yet she was in her early 40s. Though she was not hitched, she was happy, content and fulfilled. Like most women, her dating life had been very eventful, her heart broken and shattered several times by men who left her high and dry.

She was so unfortunate in love, at some point she had given up on love and vowed to just live her life. When she made that deliberate decision to take a break on dating, she focused on building and enjoying herself.

She learnt to love herself and her company; and to block her ears from all busy bodies who wanted her to get hitched by all means possible. She became so used to snide comments like, “When are you getting married? Aren’t you scared the biological clock is ticking”, she was numb to such.

“To hell with that clock. Let it tick till the battery runs out, meanwhile, I will be at a spa calming my delicate nerves,” she would joke. She took the season of singlehood as a time for empowering and enriching herself as opposed to wallowing in self-pity and engaging in cheap antics to hook a man.

While our weekends as married moms were spent taking care of toddlers, changing diapers, feeding and nursing babies, hers were full of color and fun.

“Sorry dear I am deep in some cottage in Lamu for a solo retreat,” she would tell me whenever I called maybe to invite her for my children’s birthdays. Or perhaps, “I am at a women’s retreat at the Mara. We are being taught how to look fab in this competitive corporate world.”

Makena’s calendar as a single woman was so packed, there was never a dull weekend where she would tuck alone wondering why the heavens have forgotten her. She enjoyed the season to the maximum. And because she was happy and took good care of herself and was always in jovial spirits, though she was 40-something she looked 30.

Makena’s season of singlehood ended in January last year when she walked down the aisle with a God-sent man. Mark was so smitten by Makena’s beauty, demeanor and character; he wanted to marry her immediately.

“Mo, this is divine. I never imagined I would get such a man of honour at my age. I was just busy enjoying my life then he found me,” she told me the day he proposed. Last weekend Makena delivered a bouncing baby girl after a tumultuous pregnancy given her age. Moral of the story? Let Mr. Right find you enjoying singlehood.