Don’t settle in a relationship, no matter how scared you are of losing your man

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A while back, I started going out with this magnificent guy. At the outset, everything seemed picture-perfect until I started taking in a few shortcomings with him. He was horrible at communication. Just so we are clear, I am not one of those needy women who constantly want to be assured of a man’s love and affection. However, if a man does not communicate for weeks on end, I start to question his commitment. This really peeved me to a point where I was ready to call it quits. On the other hand, I felt that I had invested so much in that relationship and could not just throw it away like that. Before making any rush decisions, I decided to seek the input of a friend on the matter.

My friend told me that I was making a mistake, and that since all other aspects of my relationship were great, I could compromise to make the relationship work. She told me that his lack of communication was just a flaw that I could live with. It made sense at the time, so I compromised. I completely stopped raising hell with him every time he forgot to return a call or answer a message. The situation took a turn for the worst. He became even more distant than ever because I was not holding him accountable. I was at my wits end until I came across a quote that made me see the light.