Be wary of men who excessively spend on you — City psychologist advises ladies

Following the brutal killing of Moi University student Ivy Wangechi, police established that the suspect, Naftali Kinuthia, could not handle rejection and as a result, often stalked the deceased.

Having admitted to spending money on Wangechi a couple of times and not getting the affection he expected, it seems like Kinuthia was bitter especially after claiming that he drove to Eldoret but the deceased avoided him.

According to Faith Atsango, a psychologist in Nairobi, stalking can be so dangerous and often begins at the tail end of a relationship.

She adds that stalkers are usually very obsessive and extremely jealous.

“They can try to make you feel guilty. They can spend on you excessively and use it later to make you feel guilty.

“The worst stalker is one who will know your insecurities and try to use it against you,” said Atsango.

She further warns that you should break links with a stalker when you first notice the obsessive traits or signs of intrusive behavior.

“The earlier you break up the better. Don’t wait until the stalker has escalated this behavior.

Lawyer Harold Ayodo opines that stalking does not only end at physical activity but can also be perpetrated online.

“So far the state has come up with laws where harassing and stalking someone on Facebook or Twitter can now earn you a 10-year prison sentence or a Sh20million fine or both,” he said.