Campus relationships are a great source of frustration

Campus relationships are not a new phenomenon to many. They date back in the days when apart from academic purposes the crème de la crème of the society took their time for soul searching to get the right partner to live their happy ever after. As time progresses and change takes effect, however, these relationships have taken a turn for the worst, like cancer they are malignant and spreading outrageously fast infecting young and frail souls leaving them totally drained all in the name of having a “normal life.” Thirst for knowledge in campus gets mixed up when new faces get to meet leading to highly heated relationships which twists the whole concept of campus life.

Relationships, like mushrooms, in varsities sprout spontaneously which sends a megawatt question to the brains of many as to why a bunch of bright kids would rush to assume the “wife and husband” role which is way beyond their capabilities and more often than not falls out of hand. Freedom for instance is a rare commodity to many students before they join campus and upon joining they are totally overwhelmed by the abundance of this commodity. For many they are in a state of confusion as to how to manage their new state. Quite a large number take their new privilege as an opportunity to build their own empires of relationships.

Universities incorporate diverse persons from different backgrounds and geographical settings. No one can live in solitude and for this reason we all work towards being accepted as part of a particular group or people and due to this nature peer pressure finds a loophole in our way of life. Students are not left behind in this as they consist of the largest percentage of who fall prey to this pandemic, which brings about creation of campus ‘wannabes’ and ‘divas’.  Most students rush into relationships as a measure to meet the standards so that they can get accepted by their fellow friends who are in relationships.

‘Getting into relationships is a way of life in Campus’; it is a predetermined perceived notion in many people’s minds such that students strive to get into a relationship simply to fit in. The mere fact that we all come from diverse backgrounds explains our ambitions in life. Some struggle to better their background while others struggle to cope with various trends within their environment. The birth of ‘sponsors’ is as a result of a group of people who are in dire need of financial aid irrespective of who it comes from and at what cost just to meet personal needs.

These kinds of relationships as time and keen observation has proven are only unhealthy and ill-timed for campus folks. Checking the news each day that dawns only acts as substantial proof as to how these unhealthy relationships have turned sons and daughters of men into blood thirsty beasts such that they slaughter one of their own in the name of purifying a relationship. From what good comes shedding someone else’s blood or taking away what is most precious of them, life. Better to understand that love is all about appreciation rather that possession. It is inhuman and totally inexcusable to carry out such archaic and backward actions. Unwanted pregnancies and STI’s are a common characteristic to many campus folks who continue acting on impulse and irrationally. Depression and finally suicide are bound to follow due to frustrations which are self-initiated.

Truth is we all want to love and be loved, have a companion who shares our bright and dark moments, convince our predictable self that we have found the apple of our eye; all these are overwhelming concepts that spice up our campus love life. Despite all our efforts of self-conviction the bitter truth is that it is ill-timed.