Campus relationships are not a new phenomenon to many. They date back in the
days when apart from academic purposes the crème de la crème of the society
took their time for soul searching to get the right partner to live their happy
ever after. As time progresses and change takes effect, however, these
relationships have taken a turn for the worst, like cancer they are malignant
and spreading outrageously fast infecting young and frail souls leaving them
totally drained all in the name of having a “normal life.” Thirst for knowledge
in campus gets mixed up when new faces get to meet leading to highly heated
relationships which twists the whole concept of campus life.
Relationships, like mushrooms, in varsities
sprout spontaneously which sends a megawatt question to the brains of many as
to why a bunch of bright kids would rush to assume the “wife and husband” role
which is way beyond their capabilities and more often than not falls out of
hand. Freedom for instance is a rare commodity to many students before they
join campus and upon joining they are totally overwhelmed by the abundance of
this commodity. For many they are in a state of confusion as to how to manage
their new state. Quite a large number take their new privilege as an
opportunity to build their own empires of relationships.
Universities incorporate diverse persons from
different backgrounds and geographical settings. No one can live in solitude
and for this reason we all work towards being accepted as part of a particular
group or people and due to this nature peer pressure finds a loophole in our
way of life. Students are not left behind in this as they consist of the
largest percentage of who fall prey to this pandemic, which brings about
creation of campus ‘wannabes’ and ‘divas’. Most students rush into
relationships as a measure to meet the standards so that they can get accepted
by their fellow friends who are in relationships.
‘Getting into relationships is a way of life in
Campus’; it is a predetermined perceived notion in many people’s minds such
that students strive to get into a relationship simply to fit in. The mere fact
that we all come from diverse backgrounds explains our ambitions in life. Some
struggle to better their background while others struggle to cope with various
trends within their environment. The birth of ‘sponsors’ is as a result of a group
of people who are in dire need of financial aid irrespective of who it comes
from and at what cost just to meet personal needs.
These kinds of relationships as time and keen
observation has proven are only unhealthy and ill-timed for campus folks. Checking
the news each day that dawns only acts as substantial proof as to how these
unhealthy relationships have turned sons and daughters of men into blood
thirsty beasts such that they slaughter one of their own in the name of
purifying a relationship. From what good comes shedding someone else’s blood or
taking away what is most precious of them, life. Better to understand that love
is all about appreciation rather that possession. It is inhuman and totally
inexcusable to carry out such archaic and backward actions. Unwanted
pregnancies and STI’s are a common characteristic to many campus folks who
continue acting on impulse and irrationally. Depression and finally suicide are
bound to follow due to frustrations which are self-initiated.
Truth is we all want to love and be loved, have
a companion who shares our bright and dark moments, convince our predictable
self that we have found the apple of our eye; all these are overwhelming
concepts that spice up our campus love life. Despite all our efforts of self-conviction
the bitter truth is that it is ill-timed.