He does not know about my child

He does not know about my child

I recently met a very handsome and stable guy and we have gone on a few dates. The problem is that I have never told him the whole truth about myself for fear of losing him. Immediately after Form Four, I got a baby who currently stays with my mother in our rural home. I really love this guy and he also loves me a lot. I feel like he is the perfect man for me, but I am afraid of what will happen if he finds out the truth. I need your advise.

Melinda Says

You make it sound like having a baby was the worst thing in the world. You can’t erase that part of your life; even if you wanted to. You say you love this man and he loves you back, then let him show you. Don’t hide your child- or be embarrassed that you have a child.

Besides, relationships are about more than good looks and you said it yourself that he is a stable guy. Tell him. He needs to know what he is getting into, and you need to know if he can take it. If he can’t, then that’s too bad because you are a mother first. Your baby needs you more than you need this man.

The longer you keep it from him, the more difficult it will be to explain later. Put all your cards on the table now before you get to a point where it is no longer an option. Besides, there is nothing sexier than a woman who can handle her own.

Your Say

if you love your child, you ought to be proud and not be ashamed to let everyone know about her. If you genuinely love the guy, be honest with him and if he loves you, he will understand and love your child. Don’t live a lie because it will cost you more than you can imagine later.

{Irene Maghuwa, Mombasa}

 

If the guy truly loves you, he will not leave you because you have a child. Tell him the truth and free yourself from guilt.

{Lastborn Fred, Usenge}

 

You should have been honest from the beginning, but it is not too late to tell him the truth. If he really loves you, he will
not mind. I also think you should do away with the fear of losing someone you are in a relationship with.

{Joram Njihia, Nairobi}

 

It is good to tell the truth as soon as you engage in a relationship so that someone can decide whether they want to continue or not. Revealing such issues later will break your relationship. Take a risk and be ready for anything.

{Julius Kipkorir Sigei, Kericho}

 

I think you should take time to know the guy before you reveal such information.

{Atsiaya Wilberforce, Imusasa}

 

Although you haven’t dated for long, I think it is important to be open about your past because it will be part of your future. I know you fear losing him but if he can’t take who you are, he is not meant for you. Just gather the courage and face it.

{Joan Tina, Eembut}

 

If you successfully keep that information from him now and you end up in marriage, he will feel cheated when you finally reveal it to him. It will ruin the trust in your relationship, so it is better to be honest from the beginning.

{Charlotte Masika}