I have lost 12 babies, but I would try again
SEE ALSO :Juggling college and motherhoodShe was only 16 when she got pregnant. She had dropped out of school after Class Eight examinations due to lack of school fees. “What I didn’t know then was that I had an ectopic pregnancy. I found out at three months. I lost the baby.” By then, she had already moved in with her boyfriend. And when she got pregnant a second time, she was ecstatic. “The pregnancy started off well. But I started havingsevere pain at seven months and underwent a Caesarean section on the eighth month of the pregnancy. My baby was alive, but not well. There was no skin covering the stomach and she was in a lot of pain so she stayed in the intensive care unit for four months before she died.” Heartbroken, she went back home with her baby’sbelongings and tried as much as she could to get over her loss.
SEE ALSO :West Pokot's 24-year-old mother of eightStill reeling from the loss, Maggy got pregnant a third time, a pregnancy she lost just as fast. Soon after, she was pregnant again, and just like the other one, lost it too. “I am not one to give up hope. I had had four pregnancies and no baby to speak of, and while I should have probably curled up in pain from my loss, my determination to be a mum was unrelenting. A series of dead babies And so she got pregnant for the fifth time. And this time the pregnancy was uneventful. “I had my baby through Cesarean section. I heaved a sigh of relief as I held my little girl. But I lost the babywhen she was just two-days-old.” Luck was not on her side as she lost her next two babies within a week after their birth. The rumour mills had also began churning, that there was something wrong with Maggy. By then, even her marriage was beginning to show the cracks. At the hospital, even the gynecologists could not find a reason for the tragedy that followed her as all test results showed good health. “My in laws then decided they had had enough of me. They said that I was turning their farm into a cemetery and ordered me back to my parent’s home.” Her husband didn’t put up a fight but promised to visit her at her parents’ home. „I had lost seven children in five years. I was tired and could not fight.“ Feeling alone and dejected, and still recovering from the seventh Caesarean section, she moved her meagre belongings to Kibra where she got a small shack for herself. Due to the post-election violence in 2007, she moved to Pangani where a Good Samaritan nursed her back to good health. Love a second time Three years went by, and while still getting her life back in order, Maggy met and fell in love with her second husband. While she was a little wary about havingchildren after all the losses she had gone through, she still wanted a baby. “My husband had assured me that he didn’t have any issue with not having any babies. He didn’t care. It was me he loved.” Still, she fell pregnant and miscarried twice. I was in just as confused as everyone else as to why this was happening to me. She fell pregnant again, and being a high risk pregnancy, she stayed in hospital for about six months under close monitoring. “This time I was lucky. As I held my beautiful baby girl, Iprayed that this one would stick around.” And she did. Precious, the little girl that stuck around, is now eight and is as healthy and thriving as can be. Unfortunately, the next two pregnancies were not as successful, as both babies died soon after birth. In 2017, Maggy was diagnosed with fibroids and ovarian cysts and before the surgery to have them removed, the doctor advised her that if she wanted another baby, she had best do it before the surgery and in the meantime would put her on medication to stabilise her hormones. “I thereafter got pregnant with twins but one died and this one survived, she says, referring to her now 15-month-old Hope. While her second marriage fell apart, Maggy says that she is happy with her life. And while her smiles mask some sadness from all the past pain and suffering, she will not let that steal the opportunity and blessings she now has; her little brood of two. Would she have another baby? “Why not? If I find the right man again,” she says with a smile. As I walk away from her at the end of the interview, I am reminded of the adage that one should be kind to everyone, as we know not what battles they are fighting.