Tinder Tales: Why I ditched dating apps

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Long term relationships are a function of time, work, patience and commitment. Any relationship whose foundation is love, shouldn't be instant because as they say, love grows. On the contrary, dating apps and hook-ups in the present day have made relationships instant - like coffee. And short term.

One Saturday afternoon, I'm in the village under a tree watching my son and his cousins play kalongolongo. I'm in my father's compound again after several boring dates in the city. I had a clear sense that I needed to try online dating after a friend told me the boyfriend she found on Tinder is an awesome human. I quickly download Tinder and create an appealing profile.