I am in love with my sister’s husband

By Eve Woman

I completed Form Four in 2010 and I have been living with my sister since then. She is married and I take care of her children who are very close to me. I know this is wrong, but I have fallen in love with her husband who has been tuning me for a year. I really love him and he tells me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I would also like him to marry me, but I don’t know how it will be with my sister. He is the only man I have ever loved. Please advise.

{Nelly B}

You already know what you are doing is wrong. It will not only create enmity between you and your sister, but also with other family members.

{Elvis Ogola}

 

This man does not love you. If he did, he would have taken care of your future by ensuring you pursue good career as opposed to looking after his children since 2010. Being intimate with him will spell the end of your stay in that house.

{John Adoyo, Nairobi}

 

Wake up from your dreams and face reality. How would you feel if your sister did such a thing behind your back? Don’t be cheap. Look for your own man. There are no shortcuts in life. Confess to your sister, then go back to the village. Better have a relationship with a village boy than ruin your sister’s marriage.

{OUMA RAGUMO, SIFUYO} 

 

That would be the biggest mistake of your life. That is a dishonest man who wants to use you to satisfy his immoral desires, and he will do the same to you if you marry him. Do not wreck your sister’s marriage. End the relationship and get out of your sister’s house.

{Tasma Charles}

 

Breaking someone’s marriage is sin. Put yourself in your sister’s shoes and imagine how she would feel. Your brother-in-law wants to destroy your life. How do you think his children will feel when they realise what you did to their mother? Don’t let anyone ruin your future.

{Maureen Buya}

 

You know what you are about to do is wrong. Why can’t you take a step back and think about the consequences. 

{Philemon Koskei}

 

Anyone involved romantically with a married man is second fiddle, no matter what he says. You are making the worst mistake ever. Having completed Form Four in 2010, it means you are young and not ready for marriage, let alone being a husband snatcher. Think about the consequences of your actions and take control of your feelings.

{Andrew Chaplin}

Nelly, you are courting disaster and nothing good can come out of this arrangement. You have managed to go unnoticed, so far, but your day of reckoning will come soon and the situation will blow up on you.

When this happens, you are the only one who will be left out in the cold. Your sister will definitely hold on to her husband and he (your boyfriend) will want to maintain his family at all costs. You are the one who will lose your face and trust with your sister, which could actually spread to your other sisters. As a matter of fact, you may find yourself unwelcome in their homes because of your unbecoming and unacceptable behaviour.

It may be difficult to end this while still living there, so start considering moving out. Do it before you are caught; otherwise, no woman will ever trust you to be near their husband.

{Taurus}