By Getrude Mungai
A woman once told me she had three dark patches on either side of her thighs and pubic area, which always confused her husband as they gave him a hard time when finding his way to treasure.
When the topic comes up, there is usually a debate of what is best — a bush or kipara (clean shaven)?
In some cultures, pubic hair was not permitted in drawings and on sculptures as it was considered indecent.
It is alleged that famous author and artist John Ruskin, having never seen a naked woman and being accustomed to hairless nude pictures of women in art, was horrified on his wedding night to discover his bride had thick, rough and wild pubic hair ‘just like a man’.
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He thought she was a freak and rejected her, leading to the annulment of the wedding.
During Victorian times, lovers among the upper class exchanged pubic hair as tokens of love. Some men even put locks of this hair on their hats like its now done with feathers as a show of their sexual prowess.
The museum of St Andrews University in Scotland has in its collection a snuffbox full of pubic hair of one of King George IV’s mistresses.
Back home, women still have concerns over body hairs. The need to shave or trim stems from various reasons including fashion, tradition, physical appearance, to enhance lovemaking especially oral sex and tactile sensation, or to put on a bathing suit. Some religions also recommend shaving.
Many women ask for my opinion, but I believe your mate’s opinion is more important. He is the one who makes love to you. You need to ask him what he likes.
Some men view clean-shaven pubic to be like a child’s, which makes them extremely uncomfortable. Others, like the famous writer, find hairs on women too masculine.
The best thing is to try both options and see how he reacts. If he hates the clean-shaven look, at least the hair will grow back.
This is one of most popular methods as they are convenient. All one has to do is apply and wait for a couple of minutes then wash off. If this is your preferred choice, try as many varieties as possible to determine what is good for you.
When applying, wet some cotton wool with warm water and cover the vagina where the lips touch as creams can cause itchiness, burn or bruise. When hairs start growing back the area may become itchy and cause discomfort.
Another challenge could be ingrown hairs; that is when growing hair curls inside instead of emerging straight up resulting in painful pimples. To avoid this, use a good aftershave. However, some creams might react with the aftershave lotion so take care.
A concern though is that some creams burn the skin resulting in darkening the area. If this happens, then hair removal creams are not for you.
Razors are another a popular choice. His razor in the bathroom could be tempting and I’m sure many women are guilty of borrowing without permission, which annoys most husbands since shaving pubic hair dulls their blades and raises the likelihood of cuts.
The best time to shave is after a bath or shower when the hair is soft and moist. To avoid cutting sensitive parts, get a small mirror to help with visibility. It is advisable to trim the hair before a shave; short hairs are easy to manage.
When shaving, use steady long strokes and clean the blade under running water after each stroke. If possible, always use a new blade, with multiple blade for a closer shave. A blade with a pivoting head is ideal for turns and curves.
When done, clean with warm water and pat the area dry with a clean towel. After-shave lotion or cream will help alleviate after-shave blues such as itchiness and in-grown hairs.
Don’t shave while on your period as the skin is more sensitive.
These trim at best. Attempts to clean shave leaves short sharp hairs that can poke him. Very close shave also irritates the skin and causes itchiness.
Waxing and sugaring works
These are the best hair removal techniques as they produce the smoothest and cleanest shave; like a baby’s backside. However, they are painful and expensive.
Wax and sugaring works are solutions applied on the skin and given time to bind hair as the concoction dries. Then, with one swift pull, yank out the hairs up to the roots. This is mainly done in salons as it is a highly specialised skill.
Sugaring works is a traditional waxing method that is mainly done at the Coast. It is made from a mixture of lemon juice, sugar and water.
Don’t walk into any salon for a wax job. You must first get good references and check out their hygienic standards.
You also don’t want anyone checking out your privates just like that.
A professional, for instance, will use small towels to cover different areas like the top, left, right and bottom while she works.