Don’t hate on ‘baby boys’ who still lives with their mothers

 He is not a loser if he is still living under his parents’ roof [Photo: Courtesy]

The year is 2017 and some grown ass men are still living with their mothers! A friend of mine came to me with a relationship dilemma.

She was going out with a seemingly perfect guy who had all the attributes she looked for in a man, except for the fact that he was still shacking up with his folks.

Generally, men who still live with their mothers are regarded with disdain and are not considered boyfriend material.

She wanted my input on whether that was enough ground for her to call it quits. I’ve always maintained that boys live with their mothers and men have their own, but as I pondered on my friend’s dilemma, I came to the conclusion that this issue should not be so cut and dry.

Yes, real men who have a healthy relationship with their mothers and a fairly decent level of connection to their emotions do not live with their parents longer than what is socially ‘acceptable.’

But there are some instances where a man’s living arrangements shouldn’t be taken into account when deciding if he is a potential partner.

He is not a loser if he is still living under his parents’ roof because of the reasons highlighted below:

He is in transition When a man is still in college or has just finished college, he should not be judged harshly for choosing to live with his parents.

This is a valid reason why he is still bunking with mum and dad. It is still pathetic, I know, but he has an incentive to do so.

The current economy has little love for a struggling college kid. There are still college guys out there who choose to live with mum and dad simply because they want to.

The difference is that the transitioning college guy has solid plans for a future on his own. The other college guy is usually vague about future living arrangements.

His parents need him A man is allowed to live with his parents have a health issue and are unable to take care of themselves.

 I have seen countless cases of people who even had to leave their marital homes and move back in with their parents because they were ailing.

 It is a noble thing to do and a man should not be shamed because of it. He is simply being a good and responsible son.

 He is living with his parents because it is his responsibility to take care of his parents. Also, in case of the death on one parent, it is acceptable for a man to move back home temporarily to watch over the other parent.

He is saving money for his future  I know quite a few men who are working decent jobs and earning good money, yet still choose to live with their parents.

While a good number of them are losers who want to come home to a hot meal and a clean house without a nagging wife, a few are just being smart with their money.

They hold off paying rent and save that money to buy their own homes. But make sure he has a solid plan in place before you date him.

You may end up with a lazy bum who is just mooching off his mother.

@roxannekenya