Advice to those who spread rumors about other people in Campus

A friend of mine approached me yesterday and told me she has been having a rough time for sometime now and she thought it would be better to confide in a friend and she chose me. The only problem is I don't know how to advise someone how they want to be advised so I just told her what was in my mind.

I will hope that she reads this.

Lucy (not her real name) came to me yesterday night and told me she needed to talk. I told her to go on and hoped I will be of help to her and that's when she started telling me that she has been hearing that people gossip her and talk about her. Apparently what they have been talking about is not what she would expect. It is far beyond her imagination and she was shocked when a friend told her the rumors that have been going round about her in school. False information. Someone just sat down and decided to tarnish her name. Someone just sat down and decided to give in false information and spread it around her school.

I really wish she would have given me permission to write down the kind of rumor that was going round. But after she shared with me and told me I could write it on my website, I said why not? This will be a chance to share with others. It will be a chance to also know that there are people going through a  difficult time and experiencing what they should not be going through.

As I sat there and listened to her, I realized one thing: that sometimes it's just good to live your life and let go the negative energy from people. Reason being people just don't care! They don't care about you. They don't care about what you tell them and they don't care to know what is going on with your life. They are just talking and spreading false rumors to different people for no good reason.  I don't know whether it is to make them feel better or to just spoil your reputation towards someone.

I told Lucy not to worry about anything and just live her life. Sometimes when you start worrying too much about people, you will forget to live your own life and start living the life of others so as to please them. I could look at her and feel pity because of what she was going through. She needed someone to talk to. She needed to feel appreciated and I hoped to make her feel that way.

I sat wondering why someone would go round giving in false information to others and spreading it from one person to another. It is just so inhuman. Lucy is happy to have at least got the information of what was going round about her from a friend of hers. Before you take a step to spread false information to others, ask yourself, have I looked and analyzed myself? How perfect am I? What gives me the authority to spread false rumors?

I saw her heart ache. I saw her heart bleed. Spreading lies only makes one a liar whether or not you originated the lies. I then remembered a place that I once read that people are always going to talk about you and spread rumors about you, but what you can do is rise above them and smile. I went ahead and asked her how many people  knew her and she told me she only talks to less people. There is a whole difference between knowing somebody and hearing about somebody. I just couldn't understand why someone would go spreading rumors, to be clear..false rumors about someone! Please make me understand.

I am writing and sharing this because I know Lucy is not the only one who has experienced such a difficult time trying to live with people who tarnish her name. People who spread false rumors behind her back. I have heard several stories and she is not the first one. One thing that you all should know is that you should not worry about those people who speak behind your back. They are behind you for a reason.

Just pray, smile and move on with your life...