How to make a good first impression on a date

 A couple on a date. (Courtesy)

American TikTok user "Mr Koa" shared anonymous first date fails on his page, which has garnered 207 thousand followers. He shared that the purpose of a first date is to either cut someone off or see if you want to take things further, saying "if by date one, I know you're not for me, I do not want a second date." The stories he shared range from women who were asked out on a date and later told to split the bill, to the other person being completely rude to the wait staff.

A first date can bring out nerves in just about anyone. The pressure to make a good first impression sits at your core as a human being and plays into your human psyche of wanting to be liked or appreciated. Making a good impression on a first date is important as it is an opportunity to potentially start a meaningful relationship. Here are some tips for making a good impression on a first date, regardless of gender.

Be on time

Being super late is not a good look. Time is money. Showing up on time is a sign of respect and shows that you value somebody's time. If you're going to be late, be sure to let the other person know as soon as possible.

Be safe

Make sure to choose a place that is central and known to both of you. This relieves you of the feelings of weariness that come from meeting a stranger. Choosing a place that you're comfortable in also helps you to relax and get to know someone better. Choose a public place just in case your gut instinct tells you to bail; you can make a fast and smooth getaway.

Be respectful

Courtesy calls for you to offer to pay for the date if you're the one that invited them out. If this won't be possible and you would like for them to help with the bill, have that conversation beforehand to avoid awkwardness when the bill arrives. Show respect to your date by being polite and respectful. Open doors for them, pull out their chair and take turns talking.

Dress appropriately

When going on a first date, it's important to dress appropriately. This doesn't mean you need to wear your fanciest clothes, but you should dress in a way that is appropriate for the occasion. If you're going to a nice restaurant, wear something a little dressier. If you're going for a walk, wear something comfortable and casual.

Be confident, but not arrogant

Confidence is attractive, but arrogance is not. Be confident in who you are, but don't brag or talk about yourself too much. Be sure to ask your date questions and listen to their responses. Share your hobbies, likes, and dislikes to find out what you have in common.

Put away your phone

Checking your phone during a date sends the message that you're not interested. Put your phone away and focus on getting to know your date. It comes off as rude if you're paying attention to your phone more than your date.

Limit the liquor

First date nerves may want to get the best of you, and you might think a few drinks prior to the meet-up might calm your nerves. However, if you're planning on having drinks during the date, do not overdo it, or you may end up getting more drunk than your date. Do not rely on liquid courage.

Be yourself

It's important to be authentic on a first date. Don't try to be someone you're not, as it will eventually come out. Be honest and genuine, and let your personality shine through. If you have a goofy laugh, just let it out. The right person will love your quirks.

Follow up

As soon as you get home, let them know you had a good time. If you had a good time on your date, a simple text message or phone call can go a long way in showing your interest. If you're not interested in seeing them again, you can politely say so to avoid leading them on.

Don't be discouraged if it doesn't go further than a first date. Remember that you may have to go on many first dates to find the right person. The goal of a first date is to get to know someone new and have a good time. By following these tips, you'll be well on your way to making a good impression on a first date.