Five signs that you are not over your ex

             Clingy exes that go to all lengths to win you back            Photo: Courtesy

There are some people who feel flattered that their exes cling to them after a breakup. To such people, it pumps up their ego, makes them feel important and needed. Others are really irritated by the clinginess and would just wish that the ex would move on with his/her life and let them be. Here is how to know if you are a clingy ex and how to move on.

Stalking

Yeah that becomes number one. As human beings, in this era of social media, it is hard to resist looking at your ex’s social media profile. But why do you need to stalk your ex if he or she already moved on? Stalking and following them all the time and finding out who they are with, where they are and what they are up to is not going to bring them back. Stalking them is not only unhealthy, but makes you lack personal growth.

Threats

This is one that is a bit common. Just because someone was your girlfriend or boyfriend and got a kid with you, that does not warrant you to keep threatening them with law suits. If they need you to be part of the kid’s life, well and good if not don’t use it against them. If someone has moved on and has a new mate, stop looking for therr number to threaten them about ‘your partner’, who actually happens to be your ex.

Irritating phone calls and texts

Making your ex’s number the last on your dialed list or filling up their inbox with SMS’ isn’t going to bring them back. Out of courtesy some will pick up, listen to you whine and hang up but others, thanks to technology, will simply block you. When they do, that should be the key sign that it’s time to move on.

Using your friends         

It is always such a nice feeling when your partner introduces you to their friends. It makes you feel loved and valuable. You all hang out together, go clubbing, have movie nights and you know what else is in the list. When you try to use those friends to win your ex back, then you are in the clingy category. It will not bring them back and it is a sign that you should really move on.

Committing suicide

A friend of mine once told me that her ex threatened to kill herself if he didn’t take her back. You do not have to stoop so low. Life is a gift that is so beautiful and precious that we do not need to take for granted. Just because one person didn’t see your value does not mean that all the others have their eyes shut. Remember, one man’s poison, is another man’s meat.