Women need to learn to forgive, forget and move on

                                   Unforgiving women                 Photo: Courtesy

You can hardly get a date with a woman on Sunday before midday. Because each and every time you try to fix a date, most women always tell you part of their plans for that day is to attend church.

And indeed, when you go to any church, women make up the largest percentage of congregates. However, one of the most preached about virtue of forgiveness is what most women lack, abundantly. 

Unlike men who can at least easily forgive and forget, most women can only forget but never forgive! There are many men who unfortunately crossed paths with women and have lived to rue it.

The trouble with women is that they can hold a grudge over the most frivolously ridiculous issue you have ever heard. A woman can hate a man with passion just because he attempted to seduce her yet she feels he is beneath her social class. Little wonder then, that, sages coined the phrase hell hath no fury like a scorned woman.

“When I parted ways with my woman she told me she would never forgive me for breaking her heart. And I thought she would heal and grow up over it, only to meet her recently in church and she refused to shake my hand.

“Never mind she is now married and has three children,” a friend recently lamented.

But it’s high time someone told all such women to get over it and stop holding grudges, especially after those involved — whether men or fellow women —calls for a truce.

I have heard cases of women who sneer and can even puke at the sight of a man with whom they had an unpalatable experience.

I, for instance, know of many women who have never forgiven their former boyfriends just because they dumped them via SMS. What baloney! With time, one is supposed to have forgiven and forgotten such trivialities or better still accepted and moved on.

Honestly, if such a man genuinely asks for forgiveness, I think it’s only fair that he be forgiven.

If there is one thing women need to learn is that men are more susceptible to flipping out and at times men like overreacting. But when such a man snaps out of his anger and genuinely seek for forgives, a good woman has to simply forgive him and forget.

Men easily forgive; we all remember that case in which a man forgave his wife who had unsuccessfully attempted to kill him more than three times. 

PURPOSE

More importantly, once a woman forgives, she should close the chapter and never reopen it by constantly reminding him the things he did. It defeats the whole purpose of forgiveness.

The few women who manage to forgive always revisit the matter every now and then. A woman can forgive you today, but keep reminding your of the sins you did now and again to a point you have to ask yourself why she forgave you in the first place.

This is 2014, ladies, learn to forgive and forget. It’s very healthy.