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Why girl child empowerment is killing the boy child

Women empowered
 The results of an empowered female shows what lacks in some of our men    Photo: Courtesy

One day, when we were in Class Six, female teachers took all girls to a private room to teach them how to be women.

Being young and nosy boys, we frantically tried to eavesdrop on the session. A big part of the talk dwelled on warding off ‘stupid’ boys, and not allowing boys to rule over their bodies. Then there was the little issue of puberty and the changes it brought, and what the girls were to do.

Later, when I spoke to friends, I realised that this is a common practice. It is founded on the perception that a girl child needs someone to walk with through the tumult of adolescence, and the fallacy that the boy child is an impediment, if not an enemy of a girl’s success.

These thoughts replayed in my mind with the explosion of the debate in recent days about the place of men in society. The place of the boy child and man in the society is changing at a frenetic pace. It is not only about the traumatic punishments meted out by women in Nyeri

Globally, boys are more likely to drop out of school. They are more likely to abuse drugs. A boy child in some countries is 20 times more likely to be imprisoned.

Where did it go wrong? It went wrong right from Class Six when teachers assumed that the boy child knows the way. He does not need direction. If anything, he is the aggressor.

It spiralled right out of our homes, where boys have no model on how to transition into men.

And I believe, by insisting on gender equality, we miss the point. Gender equality is a utopian, if not alien concept. For, how can you compare the incomparable? Boys, by nature of their wiring, are fundamentally different from girls.

To subdue a creature responsive to testosterone and equate it to another, thriving on estrogen, is like caging a cat and a lion together because both are of the same family.

The intersection between modernity and traditional practices has thrown the boy child into a wilderness of identity. A man was supposed to be stoic, strong and forbearing.

Today, the message is that what a boy can do, a girl can do better. Instead of working on the inherent, God-given strengths in both, the current rhetoric sets them in competition against each other.

As one writer puts it, parents today are too quick to swoop in. We don’t want our children to fall. So, instead of letting them experience life’s challenges, we clear the path. We’ve forgotten that adversity is part of life and is necessary to enable children build life-coping skills they will need later on in life.

So, when we see a drunken man lying in a gutter, it started from the roots. Drinking is but a manifestation of a flawed system.

It is time we did something about it. Doing something about it starts with a robust debate. It starts with a honest discussion about life stages and identity of the boy child.

If it calls for going back to our roots to find out what went wrong, then we must embrace it.

Empowering one gender must never be synonymous with stifling the other. We must realise that we need a functional man and woman for a functional society.

Dr Paul Bundi Karau is a medical doctor, author and motivational speaker. He’s currently a resident of Internal Medicine at the University of Nairobi. Email: [email protected]

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