Big scandal: Girls, here is why you should steer clear of mama’s boys

By Anne Muiruri | 5yrs ago | 3 min read

It is said that the best way to learn a man’s character is to observe the relationship he has with his mother.

People believe that the way a man treats his mother is an indicator of how he treats all women. Yet men who have a close and strong bond with their mothers are considered a bad choice for a life partner.

I spent five hellish months in a relationship with a 26-year-old mama’s boy and I saw first-hand why mama’s boys have such a bad rap. Before this relationship, I didn’t understand why women frown upon men who are particularly close with their mothers.

I thought it was sweet that a man would have such a strong attachment with his mother, but I came to learn that mama’s boys make the worst boyfriends. I can’t even imagine what life would be like married to one.

I was a bit concerned that my mama’s boy still hadn’t left the nest, three years after finishing university and two years after getting a job. But I figured he was still trying to find his footing and would move out eventually, so I didn’t let this little hassle deter me from going out with him.

I didn’t even mind that she still did all his cooking and cleaning. The thing that finally set off my alarm bells was his inability to make a decision without consulting his mother. It was disturbing. He had to get his mother’s input for even the most mundane choices.

That’s not even the worst part! He did whatever she told him, regardless of what I thought and even what he himself thought. It didn’t matter what he wanted. If his mother said otherwise, he followed that.

One time he was having an issue at work. We talked about it and we both had the same thoughts on how he was going to handle the situation. However, after going home and taking to mommy, he came back singing a different tune; her tune.

She wanted him to take a more aggressive approach to the problem. I was stunned. Just a few hours prior he was resolute about not taking that route but he had a change of heart after talking to his mother.

I had my reservations about him doing what she was advising him to do but that didn’t matter. She had the final say.

He continually put his mother’s needs and desires ahead of his own. I thought that by dating a mama’s boy that loved and respected his mom a great deal, I would get a man who would value my advice and opinions as a woman but I soon learnt that the only woman’s advice he was interested in hearing was his mother’s.

He only cared about pleasing her. I lost all the respect I had for him when I saw just how subservient he was to her. He could never stand up to her even when she was in the wrong.

I liked that my boyfriend had a great relationship with his mother but it was frustrating that he always sided with her instead of me. Other than his unhealthy attachment to his mother, he was a terrific boyfriend.

But I couldn’t imagine spending the rest of my life playing second fiddle to his mother in his life. Unless you want an overbearing mother-in-law as a permanent fixture in your life, steer clear of mama’s boys, ladies!