Fury as deadbeat father shows up 15 years later with sob tales

 He came back 15 years later

At first, he claimed the pregnancy couldn’t be his 15 years later he was back claiming he had her best interests at heart when he walked away He chose himself over his own daughter and that is unforgivable

There are three types of men that I absolutely detest: serial cheaters, abusive men and deadbeat dads. Of those three, deadbeat dads take the cake for being the most contemptible!

I think absentee dads are the lowest humans to walk this earth. It is deplorable how men think they can just run away and avoid responsibility when they get a woman pregnant because the pregnancy is ‘inconvenient’.

What infuriates me even more is when the said men casually stroll in years later, ready to assume the role of ‘father’, as if nothing ever happened. The cheek of it!

Well, my cousin’s runaway father just made a surprise appearance into her life the other day, all smiles ready to assume his responsibilities fifteen years later! This cretin bolted and ran the minute he found out my aunt was pregnant.

Sure, he had only known my aunt for a short while and they weren’t in a serious relationship but that is not an excuse to abandon your baby.

At first, he claimed the pregnancy couldn’t be his because “they had only had unprotected sex three times and he had pulled out on one of those occasions”. Ngai! Even in this day and age when monks and ‘celibate’ priests know withdrawal is no family planning method, we have men who still think otherwise?

Apart from missing out on being taught how to be a responsible and decent human being, he must have slept through his sex education lessons too based on his shockingly ignorant response.

After realizing that claiming the pregnancy wasn’t his wasn’t going to hold water, he gave the maddening excuse which most ‘low life’ men give when they knock up a woman unexpectedly; “I am not ready to be a father”. And with that, he rode off into the sunset never to be seen again until a few days ago.

‘Not ready to be a father’. That explanation makes me livid! Is anyone ever ready to be a parent? Absolutely not! When you decide to have unprotected sex, you leave yourself open to the possibility of creating a life and when that happens, no matter your situation in life, you man up and do the right thing.

Crying and whining that you are not ready to be a dad and thinking that that is enough justification to abandon the mother of your child along with your unborn child is beyond the pale.

My cousin’s deadbeat dad ran and never looked back. He left my aunt with the sole responsibility of bringing up their daughter. He did so with such callous disposition as if it was the right thing to do.

Even though he wasn’t doing too badly financially, he never sent a dime for her school fees or upkeep.  

He never called once to inquire how his daughter was doing. As far as he was concerned, she didn’t exist.

After fifteen years of silence, he is back ready to make amends. My cousin could care less about him but she decided to meet up with him to get his account of why he abandoned her and her mother.

He came to her with a sob story of how he wasn’t the man he wanted to be for her and even claimed that he had her best interests at heart when he decide to walk away because he wasn’t worthy to be in her life.

As my cousin related her father’s explanation to me, all I could think was, “what a load of baloney!”

 He walked out on his daughter out of sheer callousness! The fact remains that he chose disappearance, over the hard, but crucial work of being a father. He chose himself over his own daughter and that is unforgivable.