My new guy has not tried to kiss, hug or have sex with me, am I the problem?

 I am worried

I have met a guy but he hasn’t tried to kiss or even hug me Other guys I have dated  couldn’t keep their hands off me right from the first date I am worried that this one has no sexual interest in me at all

My new guy has no feelings, never tries to kiss, hug me

I have met a guy I am totally crazy about but I am concerned that he isn’t physically attracted to me. We have been on five dates so far and he hasn’t made any moves.

He hasn’t tried to kiss or even hug me. In the past I have dated guys who couldn’t keep their hands off me right from the first date and although I don’t like it when a man shows sexual interest too soon, I am worried that there is no sexual interest at all with this one. Is he not into me? Daisy, Kisumu

Dear Daisy,

Clearly, you are used to members of the infamous ‘Team Mafisi’! Well, there are a few men out there who prefer to have an emotional connection before getting sexual.

Not all guys are randy dogs. Perhaps he is one of those guys and he is taking his time to know you before getting physical.

I’m shy but itching to date, any tips on how to tune girls

Hi, I am a 25-year-old man and I am very shy and reserved. I avoid events and parties because I find it hard to socialise.

 I feel self-conscious and keep to myself whenever I attend gatherings and I have a hard time making friends. I have only had one girlfriend in my life and I am currently single.

I really want to start dating again, but don’t know how to approach women. How do I overcome my shyness? Chris, Nairobi

Dear Chris,

Ha! At this rate, you will soon ask me tutorials on how to make love! Yours is a special case. In the mean time, fake it till you make it.

 Relax your shoulders, smile and say hello to the next women that catches your eye. Ask questions that require a story to answer and be a good listener. You will get more comfortable doing this with time.

Casual sex hook-up wants girlfriend treatment, help!

I met a girl sometime back and we started sleeping together. She is not the type of girl I would normally date and I assumed she was only looking for fun so we kept hooking up.

However, she has been acting like we are in a relationship of late and I don’t know what to do.

How do I tell her I was just interested in sex without hurting her feelings? Joe, Meru

Dear Joe,

Hongera, looks like you got game! You, however, should have made it clear from the beginning that you didn’t want a relationship.

She won’t take it well, but just be honest with her and tell her how you feel. Next time make your intentions clear before getting anything started.

Been with two other guys, but I now want my ex back

I broke up with my ex a year ago and I am wondering if I should rekindle things with him. I broke up with him because he didn’t want a committed relationship and I have since dated other two guys but none of them made me feel like my ex did.

 I missed him and decided to reach out and we started talking again and he wants to meet up. Should I rekindle things hoping things have changed even though he didn’t want commitment before? Linda, Nairobi

Dear Linda,

Make it clear that nothing has changed for you and that you are not interested in having an intimate relationship with him without commitment.

 You are worth the commitment you desire and you should not compromise what you want for a man who doesn’t value you.