Stress is killing me: I found a box of condoms in his pockets, what should I do?

 Condoms

She found a box of condom in his pockets He claimed it belonged to his cousin He swore he was not cheating

Stress is killing me; I found condoms in his pockets

My boyfriend was away for three days to visit his family in another town and when he came back I found a box of condoms in his bag.

I confronted him about it and he told me they belonged to a cousin of his whom he had travelled with. I have had suspicions that he cheats, but I have never had evidence until now. He swore he is not cheating on me. What do I do? Linda, Thika

Dear Linda,

That is exactly what you get when you date a ‘hyena’. They leave nothing to chance! But you could be lucky, others don’t use condoms.

Meanwhile, leave that bugger, he is definitely cheating on you. Or do you want to wait until you catch him in the act to know he is cheating?

Boyfriend dumped me, began dating my friend

Hi, a few months ago my boyfriend of two years left me for my friend. I was crushed by the double betrayal. I trusted them both and they betrayed me.

My ex says he slept with her only because he fell in love with her and he expects me to accept their relationship and remain friends with both of them.

I am still hurting and don’t know how to deal with the situation. Margaret, Nairobi

Dear Margaret,

Huh! Such is life; brutal as hell. You should forgive the inglorious bastards, for you to move on, otherwise you will sulk till kingdom come.

However, you do not have to re-establish the friendship after forgiving. That is the most painful form of betrayal.

I am still in love with my ex, can’t move on

I have been dating a wonderful man for the last two years and we have started talking about marriage.

He is hardworking, caring and treats me like a queen. However, I still think about my ex boyfriend and wish things had worked out with him. We had a wonderful relationship and we broke up over petty reasons.

 Should I move forward with my current boyfriend or leave and try and rekindle things with my ex? Roselyn, Kisumu

Dear Roselyn,

Clearly, you are a joker and, obviously, not ready for marriage. You should not be discussing marriage with one man while thinking about another man. You should give your relationship a break and take the time out to figure out what you really want.

I want to get married for I feel I am getting late

I recently turned thirty years old and I really want to get married. I have been dating my boyfriend for two years and I am sure he is the one.

All my friends from high school and college are getting married and I’m starting to feel left out.

Every time a friend of mine announces she is getting married, I feel sick with jealousy. How do I bring it up without sounding pushy? Jane, Nairobi

Dear Jane,

Keeping up with the Joneses is a common problem we all suffer from. You don’t have to get married just because your friends are getting married.

What will you do when they divorce? This ‘money see, monkey do’ madness will be the end of you! If he is not ready, there is nothing you can do about that.