Ladies, perfect men only exist in ‘oga’ movies

Perhaps we have watched so many movies that we can no longer separate fiction from reality. Our perception of relationships is so unrealistic and marred with surreal representation of love that we see in the media.  As children, we are fascinated by the fairy tales where men save ladies in distress and give them a happy ever after life. We are besotted by the Western depiction of love where men give us roses and cook us dinner and kneel down to propose to us with diamond rings. And so we sit and wait for this fairy tale love to happen, we chase away any prospective candidates because they did not bring roses and know nothing of male chivalry.

Let us just learn to cut our coats according to our cloth. Unless you are locating to majuu your everyday Njuguna, Wafula and Otieno will not bring you flowers neither will they open the car door for you unless the door is faulty.
We cannot demand for flowers only to place them kwa jug ya chai because we suddenly realised we do not own vases. Instead, let us appreciate when our Otienos appear at our doorsteps with a whole sugar cane- that is how his forefathers taught him to express love.