Confessions: I grew up with a controlling father, now I feel like a failure in everything I do

My father was a perfectionist, very controlling and he still is (Photo: Shutterstock)

I am 32 years old and I have a budding career as an architect. One thing bothers me; I realise that I’ve never really got over the way my father treated me as a child. He was a perfectionist, very controlling. He still is! Whenever I speak to him on the phone or meet him, I feel like a failure in everything I do. I’m terribly self critical and I am forever worried that everyone is watching and judging me. I also can’t seem to get past my resentment of what my father did to me. Is there any way I can find peace? And perhaps get on better with him? 

[Raymond]