RELATIONSHIPS & RELIGION: How to resist the unwarranted pressure to fornicate

Dear Counsellors, I am a 20-year-old student at the university. I am also a member of the Christian Union and a staunch Anglican. I have a boyfriend who happens to be worldly and has been constantly asking me to engage in the matters of the flesh with him. I love my boyfriend, I really do, but I know the wages of fornication. The Sulphur awaiting fornicators is still taking protein shakes and doing push-ups. I have, thus, decided to save myself for marriage as the good Christian girl I am. What do I do now that there is this unwarranted pressure to fornicate? Good Christian Girl

The Counsellor – Stand firm on your faith

Hi Good Christian Girl, if you go back to your Sunday School and teens classes, good christian girls do fornicate,they preserve themselves for marriage. This is a command from the bible and not a debate, you are to preserve yourself for marriage. This is definitely easier said than done considering you love your 'worldly' boyfriend and being human and at your age your body is perhaps swaying you to sin. There is also pressure from the world around us, our friends and the media. However as Paul says in Philippians 4:13 We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. Stand firm on your faith as you pray for strength and grace from God to withstand the temptation.

To support your resolve I suggest you do 3 things. One, since you know that you and your boyfriend maybe reading from a different script on this matter, it might be advisable to take a break and rethink your relationship. Secondly avoid getting too close to sin. Things like visiting him in his room late into the night, might need to take a break for now. Public activities like a picnic, group events such as church sports day and the like might be ideal for now. Thirdly get an accountability partner who you can share with and perhaps pray with, preferable a lady. All the best Good christian girl as you conquer sin.

SISTER X - I find your chastity notion subconsciously escapist

Dear Good Christian Girl, I happen to find your name highly pretentious and while I find your chastity notion subconsciously escapist of the real world where people mate, I shall offer my advice. Child, hiyo kitu si sabuni. Practice makes perfect. You might die tonight. Let tomorrow cater for itself. I am sure your boyfriend is great otherwise the good Christian girl you are wouldn't date him. The Bible encourages sharing. Save the boy from blue-balls. Be a generous Christian. Give him that ka-something.

COMRADE Y -Matters of the flesh are matters of choice

Dear Good Christian Girl, regardless of your impeccable sense of humour, I find your sense of judgement and reasoning quite underwhelming. The fact that you are a 20-year-old in campus implies that you are an adult and you’ve had some form of schooling, but who am I to judge. Matters of the flesh are matters of choice. You choose who, when, where, how and who to engage in coitus. If you don’t want it, especially as a young lass, then you shouldn’t have it. It’s that simple. Outsiders shouldn’t be making that decision for you, unless you want to have a career in the adult movie industry, therefore making “Good Christian Girl” your screen name.