Men are not interested in me, what could be wrong?

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Men are not interested in me, what could be wrong?

I am a 19-year-old girl and I have never had a boyfriend. Everyone tells me that I am pretty and I have a nice personality but whenever I talk to boys it never leads to anything.

I was talking to a guy I like but he did not seem enthusiastic and eventually just stop replying to my messages. It broke my heart.

I don’t understand why guys are not interested in me. Am I doing something wrong? Helen, Kisumu

Dear Helen,

You are not doing anything wrong. It is normal at your age to feel this way, especially when you see your peers getting into relationships. It will happen for you, just give it time.

My new catch is taking things too fast, I’m afraid

I met a guy three weeks ago and we started going out. He is really nice and has been treating me well but he has gotten too serious too quickly that it is freaking me out.

 He has already said he loves me and is planning a future for us. He talks about us moving in together and starting a family. I told him we should take it slow but nothing has changed. Should I break up with him? Doreen, Nairobi

Dear Doreen,

This is a con man! The deal is too good to be real and if you stay in, utalilia kwa choo. You should break up with that crook because you don’t share the same feelings. It is also a huge red flag when someone starts professing his or her love this early in the relationship.

I’m afraid my guy could be cheating on me

I met my boyfriend three years ago through a mutual friend. We had incredible chemistry and we got along really well.

About one year ago he started acting suspicious. He would be very secretive with his phone and would leave the room to answer calls. He would disappear and not tell me where he had been and get angry when I question him.

My gut feeling tells me that he is cheating even though he has denied it. I love him, but I can’t live with his doubts. What do I do? Kate, Malindi

Dear Kate,

From where I sit, you are dealing with a member of the notorious ‘Team Mafisi’. Oh, those guys can be randy! Chasing after skirts is almost like their day job.

 Your guy’s behaviour is suspicious and it sounds like he hasn’t offered you much reassurance.

I know it is hard to let go when you have invested a lot of time in the relationship but you can’t stay in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy. Let him go.

My girlfriend takes loans and asks me to repay them

I am in my early thirties and I recently moved in with my girlfriend of one year. She doesn’t work and I don’t mind taking care of the finances but she is very careless with money.

She has also picked up a bad habit of taking loans from friends and family without consulting me and expecting me to pay her debts. I am at my wits end. What do I do? George, Malindi

Dear George,

Money can be very sensitive. You need to have a serious conversation with her about the current situation and explain to her how you feel.

If she makes no effort to change, let her know you intend to walk away.