It is generally agreed among Kenyan men that if a visiting girlfriend washed your jeans and made you chapatis in the course of one weekend, it is over; you are married.
More than half the marriages I know are accidental. And it is mostly the scheming on the woman’s part that consigns a man to marriage inadvertently. It is a careful trap a woman lays for the man, and the success rate is about 75 per cent in my estimations.