1. To have the spouse that you have
Your spouse will be attractive because of the work you have
put in him/her. Loved up people look very well kept and some people will want
your marriage to fail to take your spot.
2. They don't believe in love
People who don't believe in love will want your marriage to
fail to prove themselves right. When you are happy, they will say you are
faking it. When you two thrive, they say you are showing off. When you look
good together, they look for anything negative to say.
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3. Bitter people don't want you happy
Some people are hurt and cannot stand you being happy in
marriage. How dare you have a healthy marriage yet they are broken? Don't mind
them, they need to take responsibility for their hurt and let you and your
spouse enjoy the marriage you both have nurtured.
4. You remind them of what they are not doing right
Some people know they are part of the problem in their
marriage. They see you working on your marriage and you remind them of how lazy
they are at working on theirs, so they want yours to fail so that you join
them. These people give bad marriage advice.
5. You remind them of what they did wrong
You make them regret the mess they made that costed them
their marriage. Some of such people want yours to fail too because they are
still bitter, they will easily help you look for faults in your marriage.
6. They are selfish and want to be the only one who have a
Some people feel entitled to blessings. They want to be the
only one with happy marriages so when your marriage is very healthy, they will
belittle it saying "Not as healthy as mine". These people want your
marriage to fail or to be average so that they be the only ones who seem to be
enjoying marriage. So selfish. Most of these people are actually unhappy in
theirs but obsessed with winning the "Happy couple" award.
7. They are jealous of your success as a couple
Some will see that doors have opened for you two sooner and
bigger than theirs. You two own your own house, you travel the world, you look
blessed, you have joy in your home but they sneer at all these. They speak
about you two with some sarcasm and spite. It's not your fault you two have
been blessed the way you have.
8. They are jealous of how other people celebrate you
Some people are offended by how the public celebrates your
love. These people hate it when you two are mentioned as a couple, they gossip
about you, when others see any good in you they list all your faults as a
couple. Perhaps they prefer if they were the ones being celebrated.
9. They have been single for too long and are frustrated
Some people are single and frustrated so they look at you as
a constant reminder of what they don't have. As they hate on your love, they
actually want to have the kind of love that you have. Forgive them, one day
they will find their own love to be proud of.
10. They want your marriage to copy theirs
Some people think that how they do their marriage is the
only way to do marriage, they are convinced that they have the blueprint of
love and you should copy them. If you don't copy them, they silently wish your
marriage to fail in order to prove them right and teach you a lesson. These
people fail to realize that each couple is uniquely different and that there is
a difference between principles of love and patterns of love. Principles of
love are the same for every couple; teamwork, communication, forgiveness, trust
but patterns differ from couple to couple. Find your own patterns and journey
as a couple.
11. They are looking for something juicy
Some people are ever eager to talk about other people's
marriages and business in negative light, they can't wait for a bad story about
your marriage to start talking. Don't mind them, people will always talk.
12. They thrive in chaos
Some people thrive in chaos, everywhere they go they must
destroy. These people make the worst friends. If you give them room in your
home or marriage they will ruin it and walk away pretending they don't know
what went wrong. Protect your marriage from such.
© Dayan Masinde and Akello Oliech
In my book, MANHOOD SERIES, I talk about how men build and
invest in a relationship that they value, I help men to do a self-analysis of
their character, vision and motive.
In my other book, WOMANHOOD SERIES, I talk about how a woman
gets blessed when she chooses the right man to commit to and inspires the best
out of her man.
To purchase the MANHOOD SERIES written by Dayan Masinde,
MPESA Ksh. 200 to 0721590954, then text the word MAN and your email address to
the same number and the book will be sent to your email address for you to
download and read on your phone or computer.
To purchase the WOMANHOOD SERIES written by Dayan Masinde,
MPESA Ksh. 200 to 0721590954, then text the word WOMAN and your email address
to the same number and the book will be sent to your email address for you to
download and read on your phone or computer.