Signs that you are taking your partner for granted

1. You don't apologize

If you care about your partner, it will hurt you when you hurt your partner. Doing wrong and not caring is a sign you take your partner for granted.

2. You don't forgive If you value your partner it will be easy to forgive, make up and get back to loving. The longer you allow a wrong to drag the more it shows you take your remorseful partner for granted and value more your pain. True partners hate fights, they reconcile quickly.

3. You insult You cannot hurl insults at someone you value.

4. You make fun of your partner When you take your partner for granted you make him/her the subject of your jokes and make fun of your partner's body, mistakes, shortcomings and thoughts without caring how much it hurts.

5. You constantly come home late If you deny your partner the most intimate moment of your time, constantly staying away from your own home to spend time with friends shows you take your partner for granted and detest your partner's presence.

6. You heartlessly break promises If you go against your word and it's not a big deal to you, you take your partner for granted.

7. You don't look your lover in the eye One of the easiest ways we naturally behave when we despise our partner is suddenly avoiding eye contact showing that partner is not worthy of attention.

8. You don't return your partner's phone calls If you really cared to know what your partner wanted to say you would call back or make contact as soon as you can.

9. You mock your partner in public When we undervalue our partner we join the public in laughing at our partner.

10. You don't bother to change If you cared about your partner's feelings you would change, become better and stop doing things that hurt or unsettle your partner.

11. You find it hard to say I love you Saying I love you is easy when the relationship is at its peak but as you progressively start to take your partner for granted you say I love you less, you find it difficult to say those three words or even don't say them at all. Your partner tells you I love you and you don't say it back.

12. You only please your partner while making love If the only time you are good to your partner is when you want to sleep with him/her, then you're taking your partner for granted and being an opportunist, using your partner to meet your sexual need.

13. You no longer make time When you find yourself avoiding your partner, or planning it that you spend less time with your partner, you are taking your partner for granted.

14. You don't bother about what bothers your partner When you value your partner you are concerned about things that affect your partner, you care what your partner cares for.

15. You no longer say thank you You are taking your partner for granted if you are no longer grateful because you expect your partner to do the things he/she does.

16. You gossip about your partner Talking ill about your partner with others is a sign you no longer respect your partner.

17. You don't seek your partner's opinion If you respect your partner you will work with your partner in decision making.

18. You use the kids to fight your partner When you take your partner for granted you use anything to fight your partner, even your children.

19. You wish your partner harm Have you stopped wishing your partner well, no longer are you happy for him/her?

20. You are constantly seeking wrong or blame If you are always on the lookout for mistakes your partner commits, magnifying your partner's wrong, then you are taking your partner for granted. Love doesn't keep a record of wrongs.

21. You physically abuse your partner Valuing your partner means no physical harm.

22. You forget special dates If you forget the Anniversary, your partner's birthday or a day that means a lot to your partner you are taking your partner for granted. What is important you remember.

23. You easily cancel out on your partner If you easily change plans you made with your partner and cancel so casually, you are losing respect for your partner.

24. You end phone calls too casually If you no longer end a phone call with your partner in a way that shows care, warmth and evokes smiles, check how you view your partner.

25. You lie A lying tongue is a sign you no longer hold your partner in high esteem.

26. You cheat This is the greatest sign you take your partner for granted. You've lowered the value of your partner to the point you betray and have an affair.

© Dayan Masinde

In my new book, MANHOOD SERIES, I talk about the benefits of a man loving his woman and how it starts by the man loving himself. I talk about the responsibilities of a man to God, to himself, his family and society. Men are capable of loving.

In my other book, WOMANHOOD SERIES, I talk about how a woman can make wise relationship choices, how to inspire love in a man and how a woman carries so many blessings for herself and her man.

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To purchase the WOMANHOOD SERIES written by Dayan Masinde, MPESA Ksh. 200 to 0721590954, then text the word WOMAN and your email address to the same number and the book will be sent to your email address for you to download and read on your phone or computer.