Men need love and help too

By Dayan Masinde | 5yrs ago | 6 min read

1. Men also need someone to talk to

It is often expected by women that the man should be there to listen to her. But men also need a shoulder to lean on. Lady, pause for a while expecting your man to be there for you, it's not just about you, you're not the only one with issues or in need of a space to vent. The same way you tell it all to your man because you trust him, make him trust you and he will tell you his all.

2. Men also need to be searched out

During dates and intimate conversations, women tend to expect the man to be asking questions and pursuing her. But the man also needs you to show interest in him, ask him questions, pursue him too.

3. Men also need a hug

It is expected for the man to give hugs and good ones too. But men also need the woman to come to him and hug him up. Behind the strong ego mask men wear, is a gentle heart that also need tender loving care. A heart is a heart, whether it belongs to a man or woman.

4. Men also need to be protected

When a woman is being talked badly about or her name is being tarnished; it is expected of her man to defend her. But lady, also protect the honor of your man when he is attacked, stand by him in private and in public.

5. Men also need to be told I love you

In as much as most men don't show a lot of emotions, men love it when the woman they love tells them "I love you". Yes, men are weird, they don't often say these words but they need to hear. If she stops saying them he gets scared, he could be losing her.

6. Men also need to be spoilt

Men love gifts too, we all do: male or female. The question is, what exactly will please him? Know his taste, boost his ego, praise him, celebrate him and his achievements; big or small.

7. Men also need to be fought for

Men love a woman who fights for their relationship/marriage. Men cannot save the love alone; she must fight for it just like him.

8. Men also need to be prayed for

It expected that the man should be the high priest in the relationship/marriage. But men also need the woman to cover them in prayer, the woman to go to spiritual battle and growth with him, and shield him when he is bruised.

9. Men also need to be romanced

It is expected that the man should be the one doing the wooing and the charming. But love is best done when mutual. Lady, he is your King, romance your man, be forward at times, melt his heart, come on him hard; men love a strong woman who can bring her special romance and spice into the equation.

10. Men also need comfort

Men also mourn, they hurt, they cry even if tears will not be seen. In the privacy of you two, hidden from the public; lady, comfort him, tell him everything will be OK.

11. Men also need compliments

Women expect men to be generous with compliments. But men also thrive on appreciation; go on lady, don't be silent about his goodness, tell him what you love about him, that he looks and smells good, that there is no other man like him, that he is sexy and amazing (if you mean it).

12. Men also need a massage

It is a woman's dream to have a man who'll be easy to give her massages; when she comes home from a long day, he rubs her shoulders, massages her feet, tends to her tension when she is pregnant. But men have tensions too, let your feminine hands detonate those bombs of tension.

13. Men also need a spouse who initiates sex

It is often assumed that men think about sex constantly and so it is up to the man to initiate sex. But lady, your husband will love it when you take control too. Arouse him, get him in the mood; you know where to touch and lick to make him rise to the occasion. He needs to know you want his body and intimacy just as much as he wants yours.

14. Men also need to be looked after

The gentleman thing to do is to anticipate the woman's needs and meet them. The ladylike thing to do is to anticipate the man's needs and meet them; cater to him, he is your responsibility.

15. Men also need that surprise phone call or text

Women often look at their phones waiting for the man to call or quarrel him "You haven't called me in two days". But men also love surprise calls and texts; reach out to him and put a smile on his face. Instead of crucifying him for not calling you, call him.

16. Men also need faithfulness

It is often expected that men are cheats and dogs, a lot of demand is placed on men not to start affairs. But men also need their women to be faithful and not flirting around. Lots of ladies may not cheat sexually, but they cheat emotionally.

17. Men also need assurance

Men get easily jealous. They, just like women, can get insecure and need the woman to allay their fears in a way that says 'It's only you I love. I am not going anywhere, years down the line you're still the one I love'.

18. Men also need financial gestures

It is expected that the man is to be the provider, with many women saying 'His money is our money, my money is my money'. But sometimes a man can hit financial hurdles and needs an understanding woman. And even if a man is wealthy, it means a lot when the woman is a partner who says 'Honey, for this I will sort it out, we are a team'.

19. Men also need to be asked 'How was your day?

Women expect the man to want to find out how their day has been and if they are OK. But lady, do you also seek to find out how your man has been and is?

20. Men also need rescuing

Men are expected to be always strong, to man up, to keep it together and to have the answers. But sometimes men lose their way, men get beaten down by life, sometimes men need saving. Lady, if you expect him to be Superman to you, be Superwoman to him; he is only human, no matter how tough a face he wears. Be each other's support system.

In my new book, MANHOOD SERIES, I talk about the benefits of a man loving his woman and how it starts by the man loving himself. I talk about the responsibilities of a man to God, to himself, his family and society. Men are capable of loving. I also show men why it is important to be vulnerable to your woman.

In my other book, WOMANHOOD SERIES, I talk about how a woman can make wise relationship choices, how to inspire love in a man and how a woman carries so many blessings for herself and her man. I also show women how to help their man be vulnerable.

To purchase the MANHOOD SERIES written by Dayan Masinde, MPESA Ksh. 200 to 0721590954, then text the word MAN and your email address to the same number and the book will be sent to your email address for you to download and read on your phone or computer.

To purchase the WOMANHOOD SERIES written by Dayan Masinde, MPESA Ksh. 200 to 0721590954, then text the word WOMAN and your email address to the same number and the book will be sent to your email address for you to download and read on your phone or computer.