We all understand that love is a give and take relationship. You give love you receive love. In most cases, women are most obsessed by this thing called love.
When they are in chamas or after a church service, you will hear them discussing their husbands, how unfaithful they are, how they have married another woman, how their men have mpango wa kando, how Johnny has divorced. How Mary is being ‘eaten’ by Kamau.
The worst part is when they discuss their pastor and how he seems to be in love with mama assembly. All they talk about revolve around love. You will never hear them talk about how Kenya performed in the Olympics or how Chelsea will take the league.
But do you know that as much as women claim that their husbands don’t love them they contribute greatly to it? You will ask me how and this is why?
A good example is when a husband decides to send a love message to his wife, she will think that the message was not directed to her but to someone else. Probably another woman somewhere.. “ utaniambia huyo ni nani” that is the reply their husbands will get instead of “I love you too”.
They will 'boil' with anger and do very strange things at home, they can even burn their husband’s clothes. Destroy the TV and everything at their disposal, just because their husbands expressed their love.
So most men avoid getting into trouble so that peace and harmony may prevail. They normally want to express their love but they can’t.
In other occasions, some will say 'I know baba Kamau wants to borrow some money from me. This round I will not give him.' And for sure the woman will not answer the SMS.
She will even curse the husband and accuse him of wanting to squander her money with other women.
Another bunch of women will immediately conclude that their husband has impregnated someone and are just creating a conducive environment to break the news.
The daring ones will ask the husband, “You have done it again? ” As the husband goes on inquiring, he will be asked, “Who have you impregnated?”
Some will reply by asking, “Meaning? ” As if you have written Greek to them. Does it mean they don’t understand the meaning of love?
Others will simply bring on board their demands. “I don’t have this and that or the children want this and that.” So you wonder did they not understand the message or they got a wrong one message?
Some will just assume you are day dreaming.
Other women will just conclude that their husband is drunk, “When I just see such messages I know. Let him come na aniletee huo ujinga wake nitamtandika kama nyoka.”
Imagine somebody you love wants to beat you for expressing your love to them.
“What have you eaten today?” Some women will just call to ask that and the next thing they will want to know where exactly their husband is.
And finally when a husband brings flowers home to his wife to please her and she tells him, “You think I am a bee, si ungenunua nyama tukule,unapenda kuharibu pesa.” She thinks you are wasting money. To her, meat is what matters most.
Women should always be ready to receive love when it is given to them.