I impregnated my fiancee’s sister

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for five years. About two years ago, her sister came to stay with us and within that time, I started having sex with her.

Things have been going well until this year when we announced a wedding. Soon after, she came up to me and told me she was pregnant with my child and threatened to speak out if I went ahead with the marriage.

She is taking advantage of the fact that my fiancée and I don’t have a child yet. I am very stressed and I don’t know what to do. I really love my fiancée. Please help me…

{Kosgey}

Simon Says

Kosgey, your situation needs to be managed at the earliest opportunity possible to ensure that it is contained. Blackmail can drag on for many years and as such, its leverage needs to be detonated early.

The only way to detonate the situation is by walking right into the conflict and turning the tables against her. There are three things you need to deal with.  First, you need to tell your fiancée at the earliest opportunity. Once the child is born, you will need to carry out a test to prove paternity. If it turns out to be your child, you need to assure her that you will take responsibility and care for the baby.

The key thing here is to end the blackmail and focus on your wedding and your marriage. You need to be focused and convinced beyond reasonable doubt that you want your marriage to happen and this includes revealing everything and seeking forgiveness.

By threatening to blackmail you, she is playing hardball and it is that very game you should play as well. This situation can be resolved without people threatening each other. Whatever the case, you must be prepared to face the consequences of your actions. Your fiancée may forgive you, but what happens to her relationship with her sister?

{Simon}

Your Say

I understand your dilemma. If you could go to that extent, it means your relationship with your fiancée is not ready to go to the next stage — marriage. It is better to take a break and carefully consider the next move.

{Leone Kips, Nairobi}

What were you thinking man? It is better to cheat on your girl with someone else than her sister. I don’t see how she will forgive you and live with your betrayal. Call off the wedding and allow your fiancée and her family to move on, but take responsibility for the baby. 

{Zack Onyango}

I suspect blackmail here. It is possible your fiancée’s sister fell in love with you and is trying to break up your relationship. If you try to silence her now, be sure the matter will come up later, so it is better to address it now. However hard it is, you have to admit to your fiancée and hope she forgives you.

{Irene Chumo, Nakuru}

 

It is time to pay for your sins. You should have thought about the consequences before doing what you did.

{Mohammed Noor, Mombasa}

You have shown your true self even before the wedding and if your fiancée is not too desperate, she should call it quits. If you can cheat on her with her sister, how much more can you do with other people?

{Asha Wairumu, Nairobi}

Are you sure that girl is pregnant or is she more interested in breaking your relationship? And if she is, how sure are you that it is your baby? The problem is that it is difficult to prove paternity at this point. Tell her to keep quite and assure her that you will take care of her baby.

{Wellington Buri}