My son has taken all my wife’s love

Let me mention right upfront that I love my wife and son dearly. When we got married three years ago, I felt I was the luckiest man on earth.

My wife treated me like a king, everyday I got home she was there with hugs and kisses. She cooked great meals; she washed, ironed and selected my clothes for the office everyday.

She would call me many times during the day, I was her baby and she made me feel that way. She was the reason I turned down offers to hang out with the boys; I just wanted to be with her.

Last year we decided to have a baby and we were genuinely excited when she conceived in August. I could not wait to be a father.

The change

After nine months we were blessed with a baby boy and from the moment he came home from the hospital, I ceased to exist in my wife’s world. At first I naively believed that it was just the excitement of having a baby but three months down the line things have not changed.

She no longer cares about what I eat, in fact my cooking has been left to the house girl. We no longer even eat together because she is always with junior in one of the rooms. She would not even care if I didn’t eat.

The other day I tried getting her attention by going out drinking with my friends and coming home late, she didn’t even care or ask me where I had been. To make matters worse the baby moved to our marital bed something she decided on her own.

When I calmly suggested that the baby should go back to his cot, she flew into rage for the first time in our marriage. She said that it was not good for the baby to sleep alone.

Since our son arrived she has barely touched me and whenever I ask her for a little love, she always says she is tired or busy. Or that she needs all the energy she can just in case the baby needs her.

All pretence is gone and nowadays we fight like cats and dogs, battles that she initiates since she knows what to say to tick me off.

The other day her friends came by and I heard her telling them how much she loved the boy. With him nothing else mattered for her, she said.

No interest

My son has stolen my spotlight, it’s like my wife no longer has any interest in me. I know it’s wrong to feel jealous about the attention the child is getting, but what else can you feel when you are getting none.

I now spend most of my days at the bar with my friends because home is just not what it used to be. One of my female colleagues has been openly showing me a lot of attention, which I would not have not noticed back when my wife cared. But now there is no reason why I should not cheat on my wife, or is there?