Give a man peace, intimacy and a listening ear; he will never stray

In the book of Judges, a story is told of how Samson went out to Gaza, saw a prostitute and had sex with her. The men of Gaza heard of it and laid in wait for him in the morning. At midnight, Samson woke up and took on his shoulders the doors of the gate of the city, its two posts and bar; and carried them up to the top of the hill before Hebron. Later, he loved a woman called Delilah.

A number of analyses have been made on the weaknesses of Samson. How he lacked self-control and his inability to resist the power of a woman.

I want us to look at the story of Samson from another perspective – Samson who was more powerful than a speeding bullet did not lack of control; rather, he was a strong man who fell in love with the wrong woman.

Delilah represents evil and everything that is ungodly and manipulative. Samson was in pain because his fiancé had been given to his best man.

He had stored up pain and ended up doing foolish things. The enemy knew that Samson was fit for the kill because they were waiting to take him out and the future of the home lay within him.

The devil will do whatever he can to take the men out whether it is through alcohol, women, accidents, thieves or diseases. The men of Gaza were Samson’s enemies and told Delilah to find out his strength so that they could take him out. When Samson fell, the first thing the enemy went for was his eyes because he knew what to attack and he was after the vision of a man.

The moment you cannot see, you cannot move (progress) and women find it hard to follow a man without a vision.

The wicked woman knows that some things are holy and sanctified. There are things that the visionary needs in order to function at their optimum. Men are needier than women and that’s the main reason they need a woman as a helper. Even after Samson had killed a lion with his bare hands; killed 1,000 men with a donkey’s jawbone; and carried a 320kg cake for 60 kilometres from the city of Gaza to Hebron, still his needs and desires were not met. There are certain needs that a man has that only a woman can meet.

Delilah knew what Samson needed. She talked to him not at him. A woman does not need to be a beauty queen to get a man. She just needs to know how to talk. That is why you may observe a woman with her man and wonder how in the world did she get him? You can be Miss Universe but if you have a faulty mouth you will wait for some time to get a man to marry you.

A man feeds on affirmation and needs praise. There is no praise that can lift a man like the praise of a woman. Let him talk about his dreams and the benefits in them. Let your man know that he is ‘the man’. Men operate best in praise and if you want to see a man’s true colours, try praising him. Behind every great man, there is a great woman!

Delilah touched Samson. A sense of touch conveys care and love. Touch is therapeutic, a form of communication that makes your mood lighter. Men are like babies who need to be touched and rocked. She gave him intimacy which mature men long for. You can get sex from anyone but intimacy is rare. She had the right bait and she used it to make him believe he is the greatest.

Delilah gave Samson a place to rest. A visionary needs a place to rest.

Samson knew when he came to Delilah he would find rest. She put his head on her lap and he rested. She took interest in him; and implored him to tell her about himself.

In conclusion, ladies please understand that your blessing is tied on the talking, touching, creating a place to rest and taking interest in the man.

 

Bishop David Muriithi

Founder & Overseer

House of Grace International Ministries