Your guide to dating after a long break

Your guide to dating after a long break (Photo: iStock)

While singlehood offers freedom and independence, the desire for connection often resurfaces, especially during life changes or moments of loneliness. Re-entering the dating scene can feel both exciting and daunting, especially since it has likely evolved.

That, however, should not stop you from finding love, and here is what you need to do to get yourself out there:

Have some patience

Time may feel like it is running out, especially if you’re a young woman in her 30s who would love to have children and settle down before you miss your biological clock. However, for best results, it is advised that you should take your time, get to date one person exclusively, and get to know them for several months first before deciding whether or not they could be the one. Jumping to commitment too soon may end just as fast as it started.

Do not ignore red flags

After being out of the game for a while, your enthusiasm to get back in may blind you from seeing people for who they are, which may cost you down the road. As much as you want to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, you should not do it at your own expense. Check how they treat people around you, and when they tell you something negative about themselves, believe them.

Be open to possibilities

As much as there is a certain type of man or woman you would want to be in a relationship with, don’t be too rigid. Instead of writing potential suitors completely off, how about giving them a chance to see how it goes? At the end of the day, you may be surprised at the turn of events. Getting to know someone better may change your perspective and perception of them, so give them a chance first.

Ask for what you’re looking for

The quickest way to create emotional intimacy is by opening up and being authentic. Let the other person know what you want and share your feelings, both negative and positive. By letting the other person know what your expectations are and what makes you happy, and if they are willing to do that for you, then you may have found an ideal mate. Don’t be afraid of speaking your mind in a kind and respectful way.

Have fun

Dating should be something you look forward to and should never feel like a task. Instead of only using dating apps, get to meet and connect with people physically while doing fun activities together. This will create beautiful memories, and you will be able to see them for who they are in different environments and situations.