Seven reasons to settle for Mr. not quite right

Adapted from Babble

When I was in my 20s, I got into a heated debate with a few girlfriends about what it meant to settle. (More about that debate here). According to my single girlfriends, there’s never a good reason. A guy must be perfect: beautiful, passionate, funny, smart, successful.

I believe one of them told me he had to have a full head of hair. Another said he had to be taller than she was. The list went on.

And, yes, in case you are wondering, the ones who argued for perfection: still single.

My opinion: There’s a such thing as “good enough.” A man can be very different from you and still be completely right for you. If you are with someone who seems almost right but also sort of wrong, here are seven reasons why it might be time to settle for Mr. Not Quite Right.

Why Settle?

Why not? Check out these compelling reasons to marry Mr. Not Quite Perfect.

Passion Can Be Created

Yes, passion can come naturally, especially in the beginning. Over time, however, successful couples learn how to act passionately so they feel passionate. They do things all day long to flame that passionate fire. For instance, I try to notice my husband’s good qualities. Take this morning. He made me an omelet. When he brought it to me, I thought, “That was so kind of him” and I allowed that thought to form a warm feeling in my heart. I relished that feeling for a while, too. Do this sort of thing often enough and you can’t help but feel some passion. It’s the same with physical touch. Make it your daily goal to act affectionate and you will feel affectionate.

Love Is a Never-Ending Lesson

There’s no such thing as a marriage without conflict. Every couple disagrees on something. The more disagreements you have, the more you’ll be forced to become more assertive, sharpen your communication skills, and solve problems. These skills are important in all aspects of life. In this way, a less than perfect marriage can help you in your career and your other relationships.

You’re Already Happy

If you were unhappy, we’d have a problem. Think of “already happy” as a prerequisite to a good marriage and not a reason to stay single.

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