Why men should not be apologetic

It's a crowded street. You are jostling through the crowd to get to your office in good time. As you elbow your way out, a man approaches you in front and suddenly you step on his well-polished black shoes. You ignore and carry on with your swift pace. Ethics demand that you tell him sorry, but that's never on your mind at the moment. With dissatisfaction, he gazes at you and then shakes his head in sheer disbelief.

You get to the office, eventually and walk passed the receptionist's desk only to find that she isn't around. Quickly, you get to your work desk, take off your coat and rush back to the receptionist's desk. This time you find her, seated. You hurriedly stretch out your hand and...''I'm so sorry. I didn't see you here when I passed by. Sorry for not greeting you, madam.'' Out you burst.

These two incidents clearly show the distinctions in gender matters when it comes to apologizing. In a society where men are brought up with a belief that they are the strongest of the animals, offering an apology can be hard to come by. Men never apologize to other men unless the victim demands respect of such kind. In men's world, saying the simple ''sorry'' to someone whom you have wronged is as difficult as the situation itself.

Apology for men towards women make them feel weak in a relationship. The extent to which he will say sorry depends on the mass of damage caused. For a small mistake, don't expect any apology from him. For ladies, saying sorry is easy and swift regardless of the mass of damage of how big the mistake is. This is totally different from men.

In associations involving men and women, certain characteristics define the nature of apology men offer to women. A simple but hard-pressed sorry will come by if and only if the two of you have no relations at all or don't know each other. Where an intimate relationship has been established, men tend to display their displeasure (after wronging them) toward their women indirectly. You won't miss to find them doing dishes, preparing meals, bringing home flowers or washing clothes. Such activities do not necessarily show that he's being nice, but it's a way of saying sorry.

Apologizing is a creative thing to do and advantageous at the same time. Apologies mend broken relationships, heal spouses involved emotionally, eliminate anger and hatred that might exist in one party and straighten associations.