How unprepared newlyweds are pressured to make babies

Society puts too much pressure on newlyweds, as if they would help you raise the children Photo: Courtesy

Silah and Joan kosgei decided not to rush into having children after their colourful church wedding. They mutually agreed to enjoy their marriage and focus on their careers for a few years in order to build a stable home and be ready when the babies came.

Interestingly, this did not go down well not only with their families, but also the church. Silah says his friends, family and even fellow members of the church “were just not getting it”, terming the move “crazy” and “un-African”. Joan says her parents became too concerned, especially when she told them the initial decision not to have children was mutual.