You are exactly where you need to be

By Anne Mukei

A life without expectations must be so unexciting, with nothing to look forward to.

Day in, day out, we wake up with hope in our hearts and sleep with it, too — no matter how disappointing our day was. Hope makes us want to live, because with it we can visualise a better tomorrow.

Gambling

Ironically, the more hope we hold in our hearts, the more we gamble with a life that holds no guarantees.

It is at the point of our hope that our pain and heartache takes root, because when our plans, which are often grandiose, fail, we are often left in fits of pain and disappointment.

But the beauty of the human spirit is that it recovers rather fast, for in no time, you are dusting yourself and readying for the sky. Keeping trying is a good thing because it keeps the candle burning, but it can be very tiring and can leave the spirit weak and defeated.

That is when the humble among us realise they are not fully in control, that a higher power is. That is when they acknowledge that it is time to consult with this authority and probably do nothing to change the situation but sit back to watch things unfold before them.

It is then you discover that you do not always have to do something; that you do not have to remind the sun to set and nudge the moon to rise. That the starts will shine anyway, and the rivers will flow.

The truth is that at any given point in time, no matter how difficult, where you are is where you need to be. It is futile to fight it, to run away from it.

Chattering

The pain and disappointment will wash away with time; they will ebb away and you will wonder how it felt like to be unhappy.

Like an unknown author once said, “When something does not happen the way you wish it to, it means you are not ready for it; it may also mean that it is the wrong thing for you and lastly, it may mean that much better things are on the way!”

Iyanla Vanzat, author of Faith in the Valley, could not have put it better when she said, “If we could order the brain to stop chattering, clamouring and creating drama, the pain we think we are in could be transformed to an orderly flow of event.”

I bet she meant that we should not sweat the small stuff; and that we do not make minced meat of everything.

Why not abide by those ‘unwritten rules’ that somehow ensure that all is in perfect order. Because, eventually, life has to flow in perfect sync with a very divine order.