Women yelling at boys to man up shows patriarchy will never die

Could it be true that women are still the most ardent custodians of patriarchy? I am asking because some men argue that we provide the emotional impetus for patriarchy because we benefit from their masculinity more than we wish to admit. In a typical family set-up, many mothers express the word 'man up' to their sons more than the fathers do.

They do that involuntarily much as in public they advocate for men to be in touch with their emotions and openly brand stoic men as toxically masculine. When their own sons slacken, mothers threaten to buy them a 'third ball' so they can compete with the same energy as the rest of their male peers.