Sounds harsh, right? But think about it. Are you acutely aware of other
people’s problems? Does your awareness prompt a way out of the problems? Do you
then find yourself trying to help out and compromising your success? This
article is for you. Firstly, thumbs up for trying to help. Only a generous soul
would do so. However, when your generosity becomes an impediment, selfishness
can be the perfect antidote. Here’s how.
Gain
perspective
“Truth is not what you want it to be. It is what it is. And you must bend
to its power or live a lie,” said Miyamoto Musashi. He was a perfect swordsman
who never lost a fight. Truly, “only you can work on your dreams.” Similarly,
the people around you are the only ones who can make a change in their lives.
Therefore, shift your focus and work on your dreams. And you can always win
like Musashi.
Be kind
to yourself
Kindness goes both ways. As you are kind to others, be kind to yourself.”
If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete,” said Jack
Kornfield. He is a trained Buddhist monk and a bestselling American author. He
is also one of the notable pioneers who introduced mindfulness meditation to
the West.
Your ambitions need you too. Why split your energy? Did you know that
helping others can be an excuse for procrastination? Yes, it is. So before
setting out to help, be objective and don’t abandon your tasks.
Think
like a businessman
Don’t just offer solutions, think of how you can monetize them. After
all, what is a business? It’s nothing but an establishment that makes a profit
from solving problems. Ask yourself, “Is it a common problem? Is the solution
profitable?”. If the answers are affirmative, don’t hesitate. Conduct proper
research, and who knows, maybe you’ll be the next Jeff Bezos. Good luck.
Stop
trying to be God
You never created a man. The concept of fixing one, therefore, is a lost
course. Instead of trying to “fix” others, love them as they are. Accept them
as they are. What if someone tried to “fix” you? That would feel intrusive,
right? Perhaps others feel that way when you try to help. Let others be, and
their experience will point out their weaknesses better.
In
conclusion
Generosity is a virtue. It should never be an impediment. Where your
knowledge can be of benefit to someone, offer it freely. Humbly accept your
limits as a human being. Have grace and differentiate facts from your opinions.
Where possible, make the world better by creating a business that solves problems.
You matter—your dreams matter. Be selfish.
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