Seven simple ways to make your man feel great

A guest of honour made a joke about a president who, in the company of his wife, drove into a petrol station where he recognised the petrol attendant as his wife’s high school boyfriend.

The husband quickly turned to his wife who had seen the guy and told her: “If you did not marry me, you would have been married to that guy!”

The First Lady, looking straight into the husband’s eyes said: “Honey, if I had married that guy, he’d be the president!” That story that got me thinking about the value and importance of a wife.

I would like to share some insights with you that I believe will revolutionise your thinking and make a difference in your relationships.

A wife is a special gift to her husband: “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.” Proverbs 18.22. Every wife needs to recognise that they have unique powers to inspire their husbands.

This statement is clear that every wife has the capacity to propel their man to the highest level, if only they recognise that their womb does not only carry a child but also carries and gives birth to vision, purpose and passion.

You have what it takes. When you believe in him, he can soar like an eagle because he feels secure and safe with you. When your man is inspired, he will undoubtedly conquer any territory, exploit his full potential, become enthusiastic, and energetic, healthy, happy, fruitful and caring.

Here are seven suggestions to help you propel your husband towards greatness:

1. Respect him even when you don’t think he deserves it

Women are gifted at pointing out their men’s faults and failure and demanding their needs are met, which is certainly understandable.

However, this often results in discontentment and conflict. How about trying to treat him as your VIP, the king of the household and see what happens? He might get the cue and quickly treat you like a queen.

2. Initiate great sex

Generally, women want to feel desired and so it is generally the norm for them to wait for the guy to initiate sex. How about deliberately interesting him and setting the tone?

Sex has great benefits and apart from strengthening your relationship, it will improve your health, help you sleep better and give you joy. How about coming up with a code that both of you understand and make it happen?

3. Affirm him constantly and let him know what he does best

Words have the power to build or to destroy. Affirming, building and being creative in word and deed adds flavour to every relationship. Let your man know you need him, believe in him and love him unconditionally.

4. Give him time on a regular basis to do something he loves on his own

Every man needs time alone. Do not suffocate him. Trust him enough to give him the space he so greatly needs to unwind and plan alone.

Most men value this and when they choose to have time out, give it without reservation.

5. Communicate with clarity and avoid assumptions

Don’t be vague about your needs. Articulate them clearly for action. If you need his help, be clear about how, when and what.

Do not assume he reads minds, no matter how much he loves you he will never know what you really want.

6. Pray for him

Prayer is powerful. It is extremely important that you pray for him when he is hearing. Ensure that the prayers edify and bring him closer to God.

7. Build a nest

Be a great mum to his children and keep a clean and neat home.

The writer is a relationship coach and author, Marriage Built to Last. You can reach her on www.jenniekarina.co.ke