1. Couples that are struggling financially tend to have pathetic lives when it comes to making love. Their marriage tends to have arguments about the lack of money and the misuse of money. It is difficult to desire or even enjoy love making sessions yet you don't even know where food for the children or rent money is coming from. In case you two are struggling financially, understand when your spouse says they are not in the mood to get intimate. Channel that energy towards finding real financial solutions.