Causes of poor bed performance and how to overcome it

Sex has been stereotyped in a way it is believed that one should have a ‘big manhood’ to make a woman reach orgasm or it takes twice the effort for fat women to reach orgasm. These has made many to be less confident when it comes to sex hence poor performance popularly known as sexual performance anxiety.

Various issues may affect your sex performance,issues like

Being overweight

Science has proved that there is no relation of sex to weight but many are misinformed and have allowed weight to interrupt their bedroom matters.

Size of your ‘manhood’

With porn all over the internet, men are reduced to thinking that pleasure during sex is determined by how long or big the penis is. A normal length is about 5 inches; any woman would be satisfied by that.

Fear of reaching orgasm in females

A research done revealed that 1 out of 5 women have once or twice been worried to get an orgasm from their partners thus making them less comfortable and harder to enjoy sex.

Worries over premature ejaculation

Premature ejaculation is when an ejaculation occurs before the partner achieves orgasm, or a mutually satisfactory length of time has passed during intercourse especially that is the first two minutes.

Society pressure

Men worry that their capacity to please a woman alters how they're seen by the public and women bother that men are going to judge them for their bodies or abilities. This type of persuasion is worsened by the way that people are so public with their lives these days, often making societal pressure worse.

Porn and masturbation

Porn and masturbation not only makes you not to enjoy sex with your partner but also increases your partner's physical and sexual features.

These worries make your body to respond less to sexual arousals or even when it does respond to these stimulations the body fails to sustain it. However,the good news is that these anxieties can be cured.

Overcoming sexual performance anxiety needs more patience because it not an overnight ‘thing’. The following will help to see that you enjoy sex once again;

Exercise and workouts

Exercise boosts your blood circulation and reduces stress, thus making you more energetic and less stressful when having sex.

Speak openly to your partner

Talking about your sexual anxieties and fears makes both of you to feel safe and secure and comfortable when making love.

Distract yourself

Play some soft music when making love or anything that will help you not to think about the effort you are putting in.

Take your time

Do not rush your partner,take things slow,undress each other,make sex worthwhile without consciously thinking about it.

Initiate foreplay

Foreplay may help your partner in the long run,fondling makes sex better and additionally, it prepares one mentally and sexually in case of anxiety .

Stop watching porn

Viewing porn increases the expectations from both the male and the female end. Watching porn leads to addictive masturbation which leads to premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. The moment you stop watching porn is the moment there will be a turnaround in your sex life.

Relaxation

When making love to your partner instead of thinking if you are doing enough for your partner just breath in and let things flow, you will go far than you expect.

You might need the help of a therapist if you fail to overcome matters like premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunctions.