Why parents should learn to solve issues with their children privately

There is nothing wiser than knowing when not to talk. The Bible states that words cannot be taken back once they leave the mouth.This is a verse that I sacredly remember each and every day as I wake up, as I was growing up, I have said words that I regretted later, and I have also encountered situations where I thanked myself for not uttering words that would have affected me negatively.Some parents, in their conflicts with their kids, will go around discussing and seeking advice from idle neighbours in the quest of finding a solution to their tussles with their children.While it is good to seek advice and opinion, most forget that your neighbours also face the same problem, but would not tell you, making you believe that their kids are as obedient as altar boys and you see their parents as the perfect advisors to your children's' problems.Parents, if you have an issue with your children, never think that telling all the neighbours to talk to them will eventually get them to change. You are making a big blunder exposing your kid to the ridicule of your neighbours.They will symapthise with you as you entertain them with his or her wrongdoings but that is a dent on their good opinion of your child.Protect your children's public image at all costs as a parent, because exposing them not only paints a negative image of them but also you as a parent.It brings out failure on your part, whether you have given all your best or simply failed.As much as possible, try to keep your issues with your children between the two of you, and if you need to seek external help, seek an elder member of the family or a respected person.Someone who will not judge or talk to others about the issues. Seek someone who's opinion you respect and who will always tell you the truth.Exposing your child to the neighbours only results to killing their self-confidence and in the long term, your relationship with your kid will become strained.They will not be able to trust you with any struggles they are going through, as they know they will soon hear it from the neighbours.Never expose your children at all costs. It is too bad when your child stops trusting you.Trust once broken cannot be mended.