How to make him commit

Men are are afraid of commitment. However, understanding him and being yourself may get him there, writes HANNINGTON MUMO

Women analyse women in stable relationships and try to answer the age-old question: “How do I make him commit?” Men are complex individuals and differ from each other in various ways. Women ought to know that there are a number of things that deter men from making any kind of commitment to them.

Here are some of the reasons why men won’t commit:

• Men can get sex without marriage more easily now than they could in other times.

•  Men can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by cohabiting rather than marrying.

• Men want to avoid divorce and its financial risks.

•  Men want to wait until they are older to have children.

•  Men fear that marriage will require too many changes and compromises.

•  Men are waiting for the perfect soul mate and she hasn’t yet appeared.

•   Men face few social pressures to marry.

•   Men are reluctant to marry a woman who already has children.

•   They want to own a house before they get a wife.

•   Men want to enjoy a single life as long as they can.

 

Though there are no guaranteed ways of making him commit to you, there are a few things you can do to make yourself commitment-worthy.

Get to know your man: Before you decide to make your man to commit, know him first. This will involve cementing a friendly relationship. Share your goals and professional ambitions. Based on what you are going to learn from this interaction, you will know whether or not he is the person you can settle down with.

Don’t be too needy: One of the guaranteed ways to push your man away is acting needy. Despite the fact that men want to feel desired and needed, they do not feel comfortable with women who appear too needy. You have to know that a relationship is not based on neediness, but on mutual respect and interests.

Keep your independence: Independence in woman is attractive to men. The same sense of security that women feel while in the presence of successful and independent men, applies to men as well. When dating, avoid making the big mistake of dropping everything you have been doing. You have to create time for your man, but this does not mean neglecting your independent commitments.

Give him the space he needs: Instead of making that common mistake of demanding that he gives you attention throughout, it is more beneficial to give him the space he needs. Talk to him and plan when to go out, but do not nag.

If he says he needs to spend some time with his friends, do not interfere with his plans.

Let him decide for himself: Make sure you do not pressurise him into making a decision. Do not force him to go an extra mile to prove that he loves you.

Instead of drawing him closer, this will push him away. Just play your part well and let him decide whether you are that good partner worth committing to.

—Additional information from impactlab.net