Love lessons to cover this cold season

By Miss Mandi

During the ‘cuffing’ season, most men woo women to bed but once the sun is out, they are nowhere in sight

July the cold season or what is sometimes referred to as the cuffing season is finally here. 

It’s time when most people have the urge to get hitched to chase the cold away.

The urban dictionary defines cuffing season as: the season when everyone gets coupled up usually when it is getting cold outside.

 When cuffing period sets in, women usually get the short end of the season. Most men hook up with women and woo them to bed (during this time) but once the sun is out, they are nowhere in sight. Sadly, the women by then have fallen head over heels with the men who have mastered the art of detachment. 

In order to survive this cuffing season (cold season) I will share with you six commandments:

 

Don’t give it up too soon

You may have found the perfect candidate to cuff but don’t give it up too soon.

First flirt with him to develop the chemistry. If you want to give it up on the first date, that’s fine. There’s no right timeline to have sex but engaging in sex for the sake of it, is a wrong move.

The chemistry between the two of you is important because it will stick even after the cold season is over.  On the flipside, don’t keep them waiting too long, lest you get replaced.

 

Don’t make them your everything!

A cuffing season fling is just a fling though it has similarities to a relationship. In any relationship, no one wants to feel chocked by his or her partner’s presence.

The key to a great cuffing season is, don’t appear too desperate.

Get yourself a cuffing partner but also don’t get so caught up with the cuddling and forget your friends.

 

Don’t leave anything behind at their house

Once you have hooked up never leave anything at his or her house. If you decide to leave anything behind at their place, expect it to be thrown away. (And never ask if you can leave something, that’s just an awkward question.) This isn’t a relationship neither a storage facility. You have to take your belonging with you.

 

Don’t ask uncalled for questions

There’s an old saying that you can tell someone who needs to know something because they don’t have to ask. Be careful with the questions that you ask and always respect boundaries.

Where are you at?” “What are you doing?” “What’s your relationship with that girl (or guy)?” are good examples of questions that you must avoid. There are boundaries and more so because it is just for the cuffing season.

 

Keep your sex escapades to yourself

Since you’re likely to go on several dates, it’s important you don’t go telling every Tom, Dick and Harry about your sex life. I believe, “the secret to a great sex life is discretion.” Let me be clear, you can tell a friend or two about your cuffing season boo but, it’s best not to kiss and tell.

 

Don’t try to turn water into wine.

Water will quench your thirst but wine will last forever. If you try and turn your cuffing season partner into a fully-fledged relationship (wine) it will probably fizzle quickly.

A person who tries and changes the agreement after it’s made, ends up hurt. I know feelings may get involved especially for women.

Ladies, if you involve your feelings after a few cuddles and great sex then he goes silent once the sun is back, you have no one to blame but yourself.

What I have mentioned above isn’t cast on stone because the universe has an interesting way of hooking up people.

If you’ve found yourself in a situation that is 100 per cent exclusive, don’t hold back, just commit.

There’s nothing worse than when everyone knows that the two of you are together but you keep denying it because it’s the cold season.

A point will come when the love bug will strike and you settle down with her or him.