Set the tone: How to speak to children about Coronavirus

Parents have been advised to discuss coronavirus with their children but to be careful not to share too many scary details.

Child Mind, a non-profit set up to help young people struggling with their mental health, has issued advice to parents wanting to talk to their children about the coronavirus spread.

The organisations first bit of advice is for parents not to be afraid of broaching the topic. “Most children will have already heard about the virus or seen people wearing face masks, so parents shouldn’t avoid talking about it,” a section on Child Mind’s website suggests.

“Not talking about something can actually make kids worry more . Look at the conversation as an opportunity to convey the facts and set the emotional tone.” While parents should not be afraid of having that chat, they should make sure to tailor the information to their children. Too much of the wrong information may leave young ones feeling overwhelmed.

The advice continues: “Take your cues from your child. Invite your child to tell you anything they may have heard about the coronavirus, and how they feel. Give them ample opportunity to ask questions. You want to be prepared to answer (but not prompt) questions.

“Your goal is to avoid encouraging frightening fantasies.”

Janine Domingues, PhD, a child psychologist at the Child Mind Institute, says it is important not to start the chat if you’re in a bad mental place. “When you’re feeling most anxious or panicked, that isn’t the time to talk to your kids about what’s happening with the coronavirus,” she said.

Parents should be aware that young children are “very egocentric”, meaning they will likely worry they will get the disease. Speaking about the proactive measures that are being taken may help to ease their anxiety. Dr Jamie Howard, PhD, a child psychologist, said: “Kids feel empowered when they know what to do to keep themselves safe.”

The more that it feels like society is breaking down slightly, the more important it is to keep kids in a routine familiar to them.

“We don’t like uncertainty, so staying rooted in routines and predictability is going to be helpful right now,” advises Dr. Domingues.

And finally, Child Mind recommends that parents keep their children in the loop. “Let them know that the lines of communication are going to be open,” says Dr. Domingues.

“You can say, ‘Even though we don’t have the answers to everything right now, know that once we know more, mom or dad will let you know, too.”