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Build your self-esteem

By Kevin Odongo | June 5th 2016

How do you see yourself? How’s your relationship with you? Are you replaying the record of your past in the era of your breakthrough? It’s time to press a stop button upon every voice that is trying to tell you the negatives about you because this affects how you esteem yourself. Self-esteem is very important.

How we see ourselves is key to experiencing a fulfilled life.  When our self-esteem is high, we can say that we are honouring ourselves by seeing ourselves in the right light.

Life is full of negative voices that affect how we see ourselves. The truth is, these voices cannot determine who you are. It is impossible to perform consistently in a manner inconsistent with the way we see ourselves.

No matter what we do, we always act in direct response to our self-image. Nothing is more difficult to accomplish than changing outward actions without changing inward feelings.

The question is, how do we improve our self-esteem apart from not listening to the voices of our past, or negative voices?

Today we will talk about three ways to ensure we are always operating on a higher level of exercising the right attitude about ourselves. One of the ways is to always remember our successes. When was the last time you celebrated your successes? The little victories we experience when celebrated go a long way in improving our self-esteem because we tap into the most important thing in us; that of feeling important.

How can you care for people if you don’t care for yourself enough to celebrate your victories? We have a society that has taught us to gloss over our successes.

Every good thing we do never seems to be good enough. It is upon us to make it good enough by celebrating and magnifying it. Until we see our victories as worth celebrating, then our self-esteem won’t improve.

Know yourself better

It could even mean buying yourself a small gift, or rewarding yourself for every small victory you experience. Whatever you do, make sure you are in gratitude mode.

Secondly, spend more time with yourself and get to reconnect with the most important person and that is you. This way, you will carry a healthy self-esteem born out of knowledge about yourself.

A lot of people would rather not be alone. Spending time with yourself means having a meeting with yourself every day and having a conversation with yourself in a bid to know yourself better.

Ask yourself whether what you are doing everyday resonates with your life purpose. It is only those who know the road that have the confidence of moving on it with speed.

When you know yourself so well, you will build your self-esteem, and will have the confidence of moving to your designed purpose. Great men ask themselves great questions about themselves.

Good questions inform, but great questions transform, says John Maxwell in his book Good Leaders Ask Great Questions.

Thirdly, never to compare yourself with anybody. You are cut out for a different purpose. Appreciate yourself the way you are, and  focus on your goals and purpose.

We are all created for a particular purpose. It is foolish to begin to compare ourselves with people around us. The best person to compete against is yourself.

Every day of your life, strive to be better than your former self. Winners have learnt that once you start comparing yourself with others you might run out of gas; you might run out of the very thing that gives you energy, and that is the joy of life.

A great man once said that life is in phases, and men are in sizes. It is important therefore to know your phase and your size all the time. This will make you happy and improve your self-esteem. 

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