Born to cheat

By Shirley

 

My name is Timothy. A month ago, my wife informed me that she was going to visit her sister in Mombasa. The two are very close so I did not think much of her request.

She left on a Monday promising to return on Saturday. But on Friday evening, a day before she was to return from Mombasa, I received an anonymous text message informing me that if I wanted to know the truth about the state of my marriage, I had better attend an on-going party in South C.

The text provided accurate directions and even though I did not believe anything was the matter with my marriage, I made my way to the party out of curiosity.

 

Party hostess

 

There, I received the shock of my life. My dear wife was not only in attendance but also apparently, at least according to those who attended the party, the house owner’s girlfriend and consequently, party hostess.

When I confronted her, she ran out of the room and locked herself in an upstairs bedroom. Her boyfriend, let’s call him Tom, was also in shock because he claimed he had no idea she was a married woman.  He said they had been dating for a year, yet my wife and I have been married for a year and a half.

I was mad. I knew if I stayed, I would probably kill someone, so I left and headed home.

The following day, she came back. But instead of being remorseful, she said the reason she had an affair was because I was not satisfying her. That enraged me even more. I ordered her to pack her stuff and drove her back to her parent’s home in Lang’ata.

After the incident, family and friends began giving me more stories of her many escapades. I was hurt that everyone else knew about her infidelity apart from me yet none had bothered to let me know. 

Since I sent her packing, she has been calling me, begging me to take her back. She claims she loves me and that she wants to give our marriage a second chance. I love her and I want our marriage to work. Should I take her back?

 

Shameless

 

Timothy, your wife is clearly being disrespectful and shameless. How can she leave her marital home and go play hostess in a single man’s house and when she is caught, she turns around and blames it on you?

For a couple to survive the upheaval of an extra-marital affair, the cheating party has to acknowledge that what they did was wrong and accept blame. When they pass the blame, there is no hope.

If she has had countless affairs in the mere year and a half that you’ve been married, hers is an ingrained habit. She is certain to cheat way into old age.